Just enjoy being with who you are with

I was married for 11 years. During this time I had many erection issues. I often got frustrated and my wife was understanding sometimes, but often felt rejected. Sometimes she got frustrated by the way I dealt with it by feeling bad about myself, putting myself down, beating myself. We did have great sex too. The marriage is over now. That played a part, but of course it was more to do with my behaviour. At the moment I am seeing someone new. I am still recovering from the previous relationship also. I haven’t been with another woman for over 20 years. She’s totally different. I have had sex with her, but I have had problems getting and maintaining an erection. She has been fine about it and noticed I was getting more frustrated than her. I explore her body, touch her, kiss her all over. I’ve given her oral sex many times and made her cum. She says she is very satisfied being with me. She gave me oral slso and a handjob and I got hard and came. I still feel awkward about condoms, but I’m trying to rekax when I put them on. I do feel a loss of sensation with them, so when we do have penetrative sex it doesn’t feel as good to me. In my previous relationship my wife had the coil so we had sex with no condoms which feels much better. It’s something to get used to. However I slipped up with my new partner and we had unprotected sex. I didn’t cum inside her, but I sure wanted to. She had a morning after pill just incase. She said it was consensual, she wanted it too. It just felt right. For me cumming inside or cumming together is the best. I am enjoying more things now. Just trying to relax, touch, kiss, explore and be in the moment. I am tough on myself too. In my current situation in life it’s a bit emotionally tough and I’m quite tense, so I shouldn’t expect to be superman in the bedroom.

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Congrats bro!

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