I’ve been having this issue with condoms, when I wear one I lose my erection. I’ve tried different kinds of condoms but no luck. It has gone to a point where I lose erection when I think about wearing a condom. Foreplay is great but when the point comes to wear the condom ai lose it.
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Hopefully if you use the Mojo content you will begin to understand how thoughts can really mess with things. Take things slowly, do the exercises and mindfulness. Get back into your body and feel confident of your erections without a condom. Then only when you feel ready, try doing the waxing & waning with a condom on and see how you get on. The important thing will be to not rush through the content. Good luck : )
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I have had this issue. Hopefully behind me. Have condom opened and ready to go. Have partner roll it on and jerk you for a bit. Then put it in! Hopefully this helps .
I’m with you OP, I have the exact same issue you describe. That’s a big part of the reason I downloaded this app (today is my first day lol). I can only agree with Mojo Amanda above and hope we both get through it with the help and support on here.
I definitely think it’s in our heads but then also the physical sensation itself with a condom plays a part? I feel more wetness/sensation etc without it, so in my head it’s like I already know it’s not going to feel as good, so my dick just goes “meh” when it’s go-time.
Sorry I can’t provide any tips but more to say, you’re not alone!
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Yes, lots ofproblems yes, lots of problems with condoms including.
- cumming while putting it in
- losing an erection with one on or losing hardness
- having a woman get frustrated and feeling rejected when telling me I could just pull out, but refusing because I didn’t feel confident I could do that successfully.
…Worst… lost erection had it fall off. Didnt realize it, kept going, got erection back, figured out that it fell off after I Ifinished and was feeling for it as I was pulling out. I found it rolled up and empty on the sheet and had to tell me partner what just happened. Traumatic moment for both of us.
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I had this same issue post divorce, 8 years of no condoms then putting one back on killed the sensation.
Now five years later, I’m hesitant to get back out on the dating scene as my last partner couldn’t have kids but ended a few weeks ago.
My urologist suggested a silicone ring to restrict blood flow out of the penis…
I’ve used one successfully sometimes… it’s a matter of finding one that fits snugly around you. And putting it on once hard or it could restrict you getting hard…
I had a vasectomy 20 years ago so I’m exempt…. 
-With a tested, monogamous partner!!
This is a common problem for many I believe. Not only for those that struggle with ED in general. The condom has its protective benefits but at the cost of sensation. This can eventually lead to ED if you are only focused on the sensation. At this point try to introduce other aspects that get you aroused as well such as: focus on your breathing, focus on your partners body, the feeling og having sex with someone, listen to her sounds, her silhouette, anything you like about her (sounds familiar? Breaking the bias) but dont forget your own sensation! Instead of focusing on how sensation is compromised, try instead to notice that the sensation is different. How the penetration is smoother, you can penetrate easier. Remember, for her it doesnt make that much of a difference, its mostly for us guys. Try to steer the experience in a way that sex can still be pleasurable, because you now focus on several aspects of the sex.
Think of it as walking outside when its raining. You wear the umbrella, so you can still walk outside. Yes you have to carry the umbrella, but at least you get to enjoy being outside without getting wet! Hope this helps, good luck!
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Haven’t had a sexual opportunity to see if this is working or not, but I’d definitely recommend masturbating with and doing the Mojo exercises with a condom on. Gives you a chance to notice the subtleties of sensation when wearing one, mentally go through the reps, build confidence that it’s not the end of the world if you lose an erection, etc… Basically applying the “practice like you play” mantra that a coach has probably said to you if you’ve played sports
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You said you tried different types, just to be sure have you tried a large condom?
My no means I’m not bigger then average but apparently the root part is bigger then the rest and only once I tried a large one I realised what I was doing wrong for half of my life. Still I don’t like it but it is a bit better as it doesn’t try to cut of my piece.