About 5 months ago, I got cheated on. While I never actually bothered to ask, the evidence it happened is pretty overwhelming. I decided bringing it up wouldn’t help anything because the relationship was done anyway by the time i caught on. I thought by now I would be somewhat at peace with this all, but I’m not. In fact, I think it’s gotten worse. I can’t eat, I can’t sleep, and I feel extremely isolated. I used to be a super happy friendly person but now im just a miserable sack of shit all the time. I haven’t used this app in a while but when I did it was helpful so I figured I would ask here. How have other people dealt with this? Is there anything on this app (specific excerises etc) that have helped people deal with this?
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Your completely understandable negative feelings do not define you. They are warranted, your trust was violated, you feel violated. But that does not make you a miserable sack of shit. You are simply you. The unchanging, unnameable “self”. And you deserve love, you deserve to love yourself.Try feeling where this pain originates in your body. Does it come from the heart? The depth of your stomach? Your head? See it and feel it. Accept its presence. It is there for a reason. But it does not have a hold on you, it is not rooted in you. You have yourself. You can and should feel all that you feel, but remember that who you are is not based on that. You are the beautiful, loving person that you know you are. Love yourself.
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