Id really like to get better at condom use. I think ive spoiled myself in relationships because I’ve had a vasectomy. So going from years of no condom use to using condoms has been extremely difficult. I have the belief that I cannot use condoms.
Finding a way to stay connected while she reassures herself that the condom is still on. And focusing more on her reactions and her body during sex rather than transitioning to spectatoring when it’s taking longer
I tell my wife to keep playing with my penis, I try to lose myself in the moment.
What has helped is my gf being understanding and just being patient while I get myself up by continuing to kiss me or my neck or play with herself. A big trigger for my sexual anxiety is not pleasuring her compared to other men, so I like to perform oral sex on her so I can hear/feel her being satisfied to some capacity
she can put the condom on…that would help a lot i think.
Something that often helps me keep the sexual flow going is taking the focus off of myself and instead focusing on my partner. So if I’m getting the sense that I’m really in my head about my erection, I may pause what we’re doing and shift my focus to her. I’ll initiate kissing her body, going down on her, or touching the areas of her body that turn her on. Seeing her really turned on can often turn me on a lot, at which point I’ve often forgotten or let go of any critical thinking towards myself.
I do my best to engage anyway. I don’t want to just give up and not do anything. I keep going regardless of what is happening. It can be a struggle but I don’t want to just sit and throw in the towel.
Keep touching and stimulating both physically and mentally
What works for me is just focusing on my own pleasure. Make sure you are feeling the sensations of your dick and remember that Sex is supposed to be enjoyable for you! When you focus on your own pleasure it helps get out of your head and helps your partner enjoy themselves more too!
O can’t keep it
I like to touch her and finger her which can get me hard again but when I go to penetrate I go flaccid
Iv found when that when I eventually got the courage to tell my parter about my issues and told them the previous times we have had sex iv been on performance drug.
That helps with the pressure.
What helps for me is going down on her. When I start to go soft. It enables me to breath and re focus, listening to her sounds of pleasure. And usually takes my mind of thinking ‘Fuck’ why did I just go soft.
Most of the time I can get hard enough to penitents again.
Breathing and
I dont
I can only keep it through masturbation with porn. No otherwise
I’ve got tj the point where I dont use condoms at all now, the trigger for me is when I get the condom on I don’t get that sensation anymore, the feeling of being inside her is gone so my erection goes with it, I avoid them simply because I don’t “feel” anythjng when I’m using a condom.
joke about it
Just making sure I stay in the physical and focusing on giving my partner a good time. Cause if she’s having a good time that helps me relax and not worry about everything and making it perfect
For me, I’ve realized that being open with people I’m having sex with, even if it’s with people I don’t know well, has helped a bit. I usually tell them that when I don’t know someone well that I’m shy or anxious, and then they always initiate in more foreplay and touching.
I’ve realized that this has been positive because in the past I’ve noticed some women get out of the mood when this happens, and many times it’s because they think it’s about them, “he must not be into me,” or, “I’m not sexy enough”. So being open makes them feel more comfortable and know it’s not about them.
Focusing on the sensations of touch and foreplay usually helps
Switch things up to have the partner on top, to have touching, to have more play