So I read that something like 68% of woman would have an affair if they could get away with it. Reading that makes me really sad, means there’s more than a 50% chance your woman would cheat given the opportunity. I trust my wife is in the minority, but as a hopeless romantic, this stat is grim. There’s absolutely zero chance I would ever be unfaithful, assumed this was the norm in most healthy relationships. Hardly surprising more than 50% marriages breakdown. Shit like this makes me anxious.
But what are the statistics for men probably higher.
Obviously takes two but more often than not it seems like it’s the man stepping out.
Men were slightly higher. But as a straight man, who’s committed, that stat doesn’t concern me.
Yeah, slightly higher for men, but only just. But as a straight man, who’s faithful, that stat doesn’t concern me. Just seemed sadly high. Of course, those who say one thing and act the same, probably don’t correlate.
I wonder what “get away with it” means in that study or whether it was framed differently. The thing is that it is completely natural to desire other people way more than your monogamous partner. This is only because when it comes to sex the human mind craves new and exciting things and not so much the same old that you had countless times.
For me, I have a huge desire to have sex with some other woman than my wife and I guess that for her it is the same (even if she won’t admit it). However, I am also extremely jealous so I absolutely could not stand her having sex with someone other than me. So I think that monogamy is kind of like a contract, where you agree on not cheating on each other, even if you would want to, because of the other person’s sake.
Now, if we hypothetically assume that you could get away with cheating 100% this creates an interesting moral question, because the only way the partner actually suffers is if they came to know that you cheated. For me personally I would probably not cheat even if I could get away with it, because I would feel very guilty, which would make the relationship worse and hurt us both, but not because I desire only my wife, unfortunately…
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You make some good points, but personally I have no desire to have sex with anyone else. I just don’t have the urge to, I love her so much the idea is unattractive if I imagine it. Guess I’m lucky. On the other hand, my very much still desire to have sex with her and don’t find it boring.