Hey, I’ve found the app, and one therapy session, have helped so far and I’ve made progress so that now I’m usually hard the whole time during foreplay and she can even bring me to climax with her hands at times but other times, as soon as I try to put it in her vagina, I go soft. Then I move back to hands and can get it hard again. This happened with another one-night-stand last year as well. I was hard the whole time until the point of putting it in. Has anyone else had this? What can I do to break this final barrier?
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That’s me! Head and hands can get me hard, vaginal sex and eating out makes me soft. The conclusion I have come to us because I’m not focused on my own sensation, but simply the performance aspect, and making sure I’m hitting it right. Which, makes it to where I can’t hit it at all! Im thinking sensate focus on here is the move, and getting into a mindset of not thinking of sex as how well you can do, but just a thing humans do, good at it or not!