Alright guys, I have to share. I’ve been trying to figure out this E.D. issue for the better part of six months. I’ve explored so many different angles / fixes and spent a lot of money. When I first saw Mojo I kinda dismissed the idea of this being “in my head”. I’m always horny; always in the mood. How could my inability to get it up be neurological? But wanting to leave no stone unturned, I signed up yesterday while waiting in the airport headed home from a guys’ weekend. I learned box breathing and practiced it on the flight and the drive home from the airport. I really wanted to be intimate with my wife, and was even considering taking a pill, but it was so late I decided to not push the matter. Late last night, we started making out a bit and it was crazy. I could actually feel sensations. My wife has grown accustomed to my inconsistency and I think she assumed nothing would manifest, but I felt it. I assured her something was working and we kept at it for another minute. That’s all it took for me to achieve the best erection I’ve had (sans meds) in six months. And it stayed with us. It was absolutely amazing. I’m still baffled by the immediate results and I know this won’t happen the same way for everyone. But for me, the results were so clear that it seems obvious that my nervous system has been stuck. Triggering my PSNS worked wonders. I’m sticking with the program and can’t wait to learn more. Especially if I can build on this momentum. Thanks for the program and the science based approach. If this keeps working, you’ve got an advocate for life.
Keep going, don’t let that once occurrence stop you from having fun, just because it happened once doesn’t mean it will happen again. Continue the exercices here and then practice them in the real world
I would suggest you continue dating while you daily put into practice these exercises here in mojo. If possible twice in a day, morning and evening. You will be by the improvement you get out of it.
Try but be honest.
So much support on here! Just be honest with the women you’re involved with. Penetrative sex is the least important part of sex for most women anyway. Get great with your mouth and hands. I infrequently will have issues because I have some leftover trouble from some emotional abuse around not ever having sex, my ex-wife withholding, and then if I came fast, degrading me about it. It can be really frustrating when ED happens. Just make sure you’re super honest that you find her really sexy but you sometimes have an issue. Just telling her so you’re not nervous about it will give you a better chance of getting hard because it may reduce some of the performance anxiety. Then, if it happens, just move on and make her cum in other ways. You’ll have to be okay with you not having an orgasm, but she’ll appreciate your efforts for her to have one. Take the pressure off yourself, lesbians have sex without any type of penetration all the time and they report orgasms at a rate of over 75% while straight women report as low as 25%…so someone is doing something right lol
I had similar issues about 18 years ago while in college and it ruined what would have been 5 or 6 great sexual encounters in a row. I wish I knew how I got over it back then to help get me out of the situation I’m in now.
when sex comes into play and we’re making out and i’m not hard i try and stall in anyway, in my mind im telling myself over and over get hard get hard get hard. when the clothes come off and im not hard i just try and avoid her touching my penis and i do the work but eventually that time comes and i just tell her im too nervous and it ends. i dont know what to do
For me I’ve still been dating, but I’ve just changed my policy so that I take things slow and don’t try for sex until I feel like we have a good emotional connection and feel relaxed around each other. Makes it waaay more likely that it’ll work out. Anxiety levels are much lower plus you feel like you’re in a better position if you can’t perform to ‘survive’ the experience with minimal trauma and hopefully still with her wanting to see you again after.
State dating a girl recently with this approach, and though there were definitely some rocky moments with our sex to start with, I’ve been building confidence (and using mojo at the same time), and now things are feeling really pretty good. Hopefully a little story of hope for you there.
Anyways, whatever you decide to do about it, if you do decide to ‘take things slow’ like i have been, just know that girls also really like it. It’s rare for a man to be the one holding the brakes, and in my experience they find it really sexy.
I’m in my early 20s and I’ve been having daily sex with my partner and out of no where I have stopped getting erections or I get an erection in foreplay but when it’s time I get soft. Also stopped getting any erections through out the day trying to find reasons and ways on
how to fix it
Hey I was wondering do you do other things besides sex or do you just hangout and cuddle?
I think you should put yourself first, but also dont let your social life fall by the wayside. If you want to find a partner then you shouldn’t deny yourself that. But you should be open and upfront about it if/when you can, because then they’ll know about it ahead of time and that might help with your anxiety a bit.
I was terrified to tell my partner when we first started dating but I was surprised at how accepting she was (and still is) about it.
Been having this problem for awhile now,
Partner has been wanting to try for another baby but I’ve to keep putting it off to been tired or not feeling good
Starting to worry she may get fed up with me
I have been with my wife for 8 years. This problem comes and goes for me usually due to stress. When we first started dating she was mildly offended and thought I wasn’t attracted to her. I explained my thoughts in the issue and since then she has always been in my corner. I always try and please a lady orally before intercourse (my wife says I’m amazing at it) and I find that helps them get over the fact you can’t get hard sometimes. If they’re happy there will be less resistance.
I think if I was dating again (and also struggling with erections) I’d be making sure I was doing two things. One: avoiding pornography completely, limiting masturbation to once a week or not at all, two: making sure I was attracted to the person, both mentally and physically.
No I don’t think a huge break from dating is strictly necessary, although Everytime you fail with a new partner it does get stuck in your brain. I’d say if you can emotionally bounce back easily then yeah, go for it. Otherwise maybe stop dating for a while as you build yourself up again.
I know it’s not a huge recommendation by the mojo team, but I got so much traction with quitting porn. I completely lost my ED issues for a few months as my brain adapted to having absolutely no sexual stimulus other than my partner.
So why am I using the mojo app? I still get in my head and I can tell that I still have some pretty deep seated emotional issues around sex and performance. No matter how many times I prove to myself that my body and my dick work fine, I always find my way back to self doubt and self criticism.
Take a break and focus on you.
i just joined today and this is the first post i’ve responded to. i wonder this myself as i have a long term girlfriend and grow increasingly frustrated with this issue of making her feel like im not attracted to her. should i just put our sex life on the back burner and just focus on hoping this app helps me? my gut tells me i need to continue to try while using this app to see my progress. this app can only do so much and getting comfortable in these situations with the apps help is the way i’m thinking about going about it. how else will you track your true progress? will there be some embarrassing moments…. for sure. and it sucks. anyway this is just the way i’m viewing it as my first day on here but it interests me on what you decide to do. anyway hoping for the best for you and everyone else on here.
The onl you are in the right place
I think you can do both man. I’m not sure how you handled her taking offense to it, if she communicated to her that it’s a personal issue, and she wasn’t understanding of that, then that’s not someone you should share that space with anyway. I’ve thought the same thing and think it’s best to simultaneously keep trying to put ourselves in situations to practice sex (think of it as exposure therapy) while doing the cognitive training on the daily. The only way out is through! We might disappoint some women along the way, but the ultimate goal is for us to overcome our mental blocks and enjoy ourselves.
I think keep dating and trying. You reinforce the negative beliefs if you pull away.
I kind of had the same problem over this weekend I couldn’t get hard while we were making out so I had her give me oral. That got me kinda hard but not all the way as soon as I tried to put the condom on it went back soft, I had her repeat the oral then I said screw the condom when I got hard enough and had her get on top, I threw the condom back on half way into it but I still wasn’t at my full erection. She came towards the end but I don’t think I ejaculated. as soon as I slowed down and pulled out for a sec i started to the lose the erection so I told her her I came also and ended it there.
She seemed cool with everything but ended up texting me the next day saying how she felt insecure, thought I wasn’t into it and didn’t want to experience it again because it was awkward. We’re now friends and trying to build a connection first before thinking about trying again.