Getting hard but still lacking continued confidence

I’ve struggled with psychological ED since I was 19 and am now 24. I am still able to get hard and have sex. This weekend I was able to relax and get hard on my own and have pretty good sex! But even with multiple successful attempts there’s still a numbness, a doubt, and lack of confidence I will be able to do it again. I still lack confidence in myself. It makes no sense to me. Logically with a track record of successful attempts confidence would build and this issue would resolve. That hasn’t been the case. It gives me anxiety and a feeling of constant frustration. An internal battle I never talk about with anyone. Has anyone experienced an issue like this? Can anyone relate? Is there something I’m missing?


I relate to you almost 100% my friend. I am 36 and I’ve been married for 12 years been together for 18 years. You would think that at this point I wouldn’t have that anxiety when it comes to having sex anymore but I still do. I can watch porn and masturbate fine but something happens in my head when it’s go time that says I’m not hard right now and so now I’ve failed and everything falls apart. I avoid sex with my wife because I hate to disappoint here. It fills me with the same numbness you mention, like I know I should be feeling more, maybe there is something deeper wrong. I’m trying to find that answer that unlocks me but so far no luck


I can relate to that too. Just like the previous comment, I’m also 36 and have been married for 10 years. It all started way earlier, before getting married, and when I was about 24, I faced a failure and had a very difficult year afterward. I battled my psychological issues and have been fine since then. However, there’s always that lingering thought that it could happen again. Well, it did happen again here and there over the years, but I was able to fight it with confidence. A couple of weeks ago, it hit me hard, and I’m now trying to regain my confidence. I often wonder, will this thought ever go away? I hate having to think about it.

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