(Gay) Disappointed about failed sex as a top after using app for a month

I had sex for the first time after using the app for a month and the first time ever as a top (only bottomed my whole life because of ED). Unfortunately it didn’t go well. The guy lay on his back and was ready for me to slide it in but without foreplay I simply wasn’t aroused enough. I tried focusing on sexy sensations but it doesn’t work if you’re the only one doing the touching. I feel embarrassed and sad about this. The guy was cool about it but I’ll probably won’t try again this year until I feel more confident about my erection.

I only tried anal a couple times years ago with my exwife, but as I recall if I wasn’t rock hard, there was no way…
Can you keep hard during solo?
You mentioned no foreplay/warmup? Maybe you need that? I certainly do.

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Good luck man!

Pardon my ignorance… topping as in B&D or simply giving rather than receiving?

You should try to get him to interact more. Maybe have him grind his ass against your dick even if you’re soft. It could help out more with more foreplay

Top is the one doing the penetration while the bottom receives. And you’re right about the necessity of foreplay.