Yeah I do all the time ,I’ve been with my girlfriend for about two years and about 8 months ago I started to have problems with staying hard and finishing to fast, I used to be fine , it makes me feel like I am letting her down and it also makes me feel insecure.
I get anxious when I have sex with a girl but that doesn’t happen with my wife.
With my wife I’m super confident and I get an
Erection instantly
I’ve also had problems since high school. I was got amazing girls but always struggled in the moment. When I was I relationships however I got comfortable and had amazing sex. Now at 38, I’m struggling with my wife. My wife is extremely understanding but lacks a sex drive which she blames on her IUD and two kids. I turned to porn to fufill my needs and now I have anxiety right before sex happens. Get hard during foreplay and just go limp right before sex. So frustrating.
I can ejaculate but I just can’t get hard
I’ve been with my wife for over 4 years, and it was right when the pandemic started that our sex life got worse/kept starting and stopping. I started getting in my head too much worrying about EVERYTHING such as maintaining an erection, finishing, thinking about her pleasure, having a baby (which we both really want), that it’s gotten me to the point where I hardly initiate. And as you can imagine, my wife is not happy with my inaction, and I’m not happy with any of this either.
Idk if it’s anxious but maybe I think about how it might not feel good enough for my partner.
I’ve struggled with erections for a number of months or maybe years now - I’m a very sexually active and proud person but I’ve struggled in recent times and have only realised in the last while that I haven’t been waking up with erections for I don’t know how long - this realisation has made me anxious and uncomfortable at times in bed and I can find it difficult to get and maintain erections
I suspect the problem may also be stemming from a potential porn addiction, so I’ve decided to take myself away from online porn and videos of erotic nature so that I can obtain erections when masturbating more naturally
I’m 55+ and performance is a huge part of my problem it always has been.
My wife and I have struggled with sex on and off for years. We are trying to have kids now and I’m having trouble keeping an erection / having an orgasm. The extra pressure and stress of needing to perform at the right time (my wife is tracking ovulation very carefully) is getting to me.
Often, I am 26 I have had tried couple of time to have sex with my Partner. When i start forplay everything seems perfect.
But than my mimd stop working, It is like stuck in the thought that will i able to give her full pleasure?
And when we got ready for intercourse, and When my Pns Get into it, I start feeling anxious and Vibration starts. It got erection so quick.
In the forplay i try not to erect from my side as i have feelings that after first erection My penis is getting loose).
I get anxious I’m not good enough or won’t get hard enough and things won’t work out because of it.
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Terribly I couldn’t get hard once with a girl and ever since that I either need oral sex or it just will not work. It affects me I feel embarrassed. I am a very attractive man and I know that is 100% true. I tend to shy away and ruin chances with very attractive girls snd im only 20!
I get anxious that I’m not going to be good enough. I believe this stems back to being rejected by a couple of girls in my teenage years. Throughout my 20s, I avoided sex out of fear of failure. I was too scared to communicate my anxiety to potentially partners out of fear of rejection. Now in my early 30s, I’ve had 2 partners. One I was poor at communicating with, but i was able to get erect, but just felt incompetent in my lack of sex skills. The other I had a bout of ED with and she was not understanding about it at all. Asked me if I was gay, then just wanted to be “friends” saying that I triggered her anxiety. I’m starting to date a new woman now, I was able to make it happen but I was nervous the whole time and worried about losing my erection.
Yes always with my now ex which is why we broke up. My ego and self esteem are low.
Yes, makes me overthink and get anxious about not performing well for my wife.
Yes, I’m very attracted to my partner, probably more than i have any of my partners. So when it comes down to the bedroom i overthinking and wanting to perform to the best of my abilities. I try to be pre plan moves in positions in my head and next thing i know once I’m in i cum to quick and lost my erection. I feel as if I’m in my head so much i over excited myself. And I’ve never had this problem sexually until i got into this relationship.
I become completely absorbed by the thought that something will happen, which it always does. I’m confident in my skills in other departments until I realize my erection is gone and I have to fight to get it back. My current partner has even attempted to help and feels as if she isn’t attractive or good enough because of this which just reinforces my worries.
I’m turned on and ready to go but I think the first time I tried it, I was just nervous, but once I figured it out I was able to stay hard enough to penetrate but I would lose it , and I’m always anxious about it even when not with her.
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I have had performance anxiety for at least the last 6 months since I started having sex. I experienced premature ejaculation when I could get hard and right now I am experiencing erectile dysfunction(the past 4 weeks or so)
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I get anxious when I think that my erection might fail, so it’s a never ending cycle. I can get hard with my wife, but the second my mind drifts and I think what if it goes away, it’s game over.