Day 9, missed one day because adulting is hard

It’s been 9 days since I started this. I feel hope for this as I want this to help me. I’ve been dealing with this issue for 6 or 7 years now. And I’m not quite 30 yet. So of course I have felt helpless and depressed over this… desperately searching for an answer as to why I lose it and why I seem to have no control over my erections. I use the breathing technique as a way to prevent or stop my inner critic from telling me I’m going to lose it or I’m going to fail at pleasing my partner. But what else do you all use to… feel more urged to have sex. I just don’t feel the drive like I used to and I don’t know if it’s because of me being afraid to fail or if I’ve become afraid of sex.