Perhaps not directly related to this but has anyone here experienced being codependent in a relationship, which causes a lot of anxiety and maybe finding it hard to enjoy sex/get it up/ sustain the erection? How did stop being codependent ?
Assuming it you who feels codependent?
Yes!
Had a similar issue and still do sometimes. Stems from some trauma which nocked my self esteem. Stopped loving myself, which isn’t great for sex confidence. Anyway, had 4 sessions with a therapist which helped me think more rationally. Turning point for me was explaining how I felt with my wife and telling her out loud, I’m worthy of you, I’m a really good person and were equally lucky to have each other. Better sex has naturally followed having a healthier mind. There’s a million reasons why you might feel codependent, but communication either with a professional, trusted friend and or your partner is nearly always the way to address it. At least it was for me. Good luck.
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I used Better Help btw.
Thanks for the suggestion! I think it definitely has to do with some childhood trauma and therapy will certainly help.
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Read the book stop caretaking the borderline or narcissist. Alot of nuggets in there
I’m experiencing a similar thing. I’m in a relationship that I am not totally sure about at the moment. There are a lot of great parts and a lot not wo great. But as far as usually I feel like she’s not giving me a lot of help and there is a bit of a codependency issue going on.