Grateful to have found this community. I’ve struggled intermittently with ED issues in the past but my wife has always been supportive through the times of erection issues, which I’m grateful for.
Currently, we are trying to conceive and the stressors of trying to perform on an ovulation schedule have added a whole new level of pressure around performing. Any tips for those who have navigated this in the past or who are currently working through?
Best of luck to all of those on your journey, and know you are not alone!
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The more you want something to happen and worry about it the less likely that it will happen. You need to change your focus to just having fun again and not focus on the performance and the end results. The concept of not being in your head is easy enough to understand but changing it is the challenge.
All I can say is keep following the exercises in the app and trust the process. Pressure is the last thing you need at this stage. There’s surely no urgency to get pregnant. Forget the rules and just go with the flow and let it happen when it’s meant to. Sounds like your wife is putting pressure on herself too. How many times have you heard about people so desperate to conceive that they try all sorts of things, even IVF and then when they give up and stop trying, they get pregnant? Just relax and trust that it will all happen when it’s supposed to. Focus on the journey and not the destination. In other words, make sex fun and pleasurable again by feeling instead of being in your head and the rest will take care of it’s self. You’ve got this.
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I’ve been there! It’s hard when it becomes a chore, especially month after month. Try to keep it fun, mix things up if she’ll let you and focus on the togetherness for such an intimate moment.
You may find you enjoy it eventually, after trying for baby number 3, I developed a breeding kink… hello number 4!