What’s helped the conversation go better?
Definitely the embarrassment
Getting any words out because it’s become such a big problem
Trying to reassure her of the feeling of rejection she feels when sex doesn’t go to plan. Trying to make her understand that it is not her and this this my issue that I would like her help to work through.
As my issue has gone on for a very long time, without me addressing it sooner, it is hard to bring up the topic and to reassure my wife that I still find her attractive and want to be intimate, without her feeling neglected and rejected, as she shuts it down with the argument that if I really felt that way, then I would have fixed this problem sooner.