Yeah bro - my girlfriend cried a couple of times before too. But when I I communicated that it’s always been a problem of not getting it up and labelled to her as performance anxiety and communicated it was a mental health issue and needed her support. She knows when I can’t get it up it’s not about her but about the anxiety kicking. Communication is key!
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I don’t think she’s willing so I’m doing this for me only
Yep I’ve told her that. We’ve been together over 20 years and there has been intermittent issues. She’s adamant it’s her fault. I’ve told her it’s not. Now I think we’ve both given up
I’m reprogramming the thought that I get soft during sex and can’t satisfy myself or my partner. While that has happened on occasion, it doesn’t happen every time. And most of the time we have a really fulfilling and satisfying sex life. This is only a recent and temporary thing.
I’m reprogramming the thought that I can’t stay hard during sex. I have done it before so I know it’s possible and it’s okay to go soft during sex too
I’m reprogramming the thought that after all the successful sex that not being able to get hard recently for sex is not the normal but an outlier and I’m getting back to being myself
I am reprogramming the thought that I wont be able to get hard during sex with a guy I’m attracted to. I know this is temporary and I know with time and focus I will be able to feel erect during sex.
I am reprogramming my mind to the thought that I went soft during sex, it rarely happens and I know I can get hard when my mind is clear and I push away the irrational thinking, I know I can do it
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The first time me and this person hooked up I wasn’t fully hard. One negative thought I had at that time was, “It’s embarrassing and she probably thinks less of me because I can’t get fully hard.” There is evidence against this negative thought. We had sex again later that night. She said she came twice. I was never able to make my last partner come and i had this person cumming twice the first night. We’ve been texting since then and making more plans. The next time I saw her we had even better sex. I barely needed any foreplay. Imagine how great it would’ve been if we had really romantic foreplay and got fully naked and had no time constraints. It would’ve been amazing. It will be amazing the next time I see her. I’ve been checking in on my sexual health and my porn habits and doing what I need to do to get better. She makes it easier. It makes total sense it wouldn’t come naturally to me to be 100% ready for sex two hours after meeting someone in real life for the first time. That’s actually nothing to worry about. There is nothing to worry about. Things are going great and I’m excited to see her again on Thursday.
Last time we had sex, I came before I wanted to and I was upset because I wasn’t fully hard and I thought of myself as half a man because I struggled to get hard and couldn’t control when I came
I did not stay hard during my last sex. I felt embarrassed and hopeless. I had thoughts that my partner really wants it and I all disappoint her as it sometimes happens. It happened especially when we try new things and positions. I am reprogramming this thought. I can make her good and come even twice. There were days that we could have sex 3-4 times and everything was fine but I did not have any negative thoughts.
When I lose my erection when we change positions I get frustrated with myself and think that a real man would be able to stay hard when changing positions
I am reprogramming the thought that I’m broken. I’m not broken. The last person I tried to have sex with I wasn’t even really attracted to and I didn’t feel safe around them. Now I’ve got a wonderful girl who I feel safe around and there’s no need to rush to sex with her. We can explore plenty of things without penetration as I heal but through patients I know that I will heal because I’ve had a lot of great sex in my life and I know I’m not broken.
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I’ve never had sex and I’m already psyched out on if I can do it. I can get hard when I’m around her but when we were about to actually have sex I was soft and I felt so pathetic. She don’t make me feel badly about it but I still just want to be better for her and I don’t want to have to worry about if I can or can’t have good sex in the future.
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I think losing an erection means failure. I need to overcome this thinking
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I am reprogramming the thought that I won’t be able to get hard when it’s time to stick it in. I’ve had amazing sex for years and years and it’s worked perfectly fine all those times with no issues. It was something I didn’t even have to think about it just worked
I am reprogramming my mind that I’m not physically broken. I can stay hard when I watch porn on my own and my partner still thinks I’m attractive. I have absolute no reason to have negative thoughts of attraction. These are all inner critic thoughts with no real evidence
Event: My girlfriend, having just come back off a long flight has amended and cancelled plans a couple of times in close succession.
Negative thought: She wants to end relationship.
Argue: she if tired and has been open and honest in the past. She left her ex as he cheated. She has been very communicative while she has been away, lots of vid calls and some vid phone sex. It is likely tiredness is an issue, we already live a long way apart so this is not an unreasonable thing to happen.
Unfortunately I have lost this relationship due to a number of factors like this that have happened over the last week or so. I definitely need to sort out these negative thoughts
That all my threesome experiences will be bad