I told my partner that I was embarrassed about not being able to maintain it long enough and that i was sorry ill do better. She has told me that something like this happens and that i should never say sorry about it because its a completely normal thing
That I am not going to be able to get hard during foreplay. I will counter that I’ve got and maintained an erection for countless sessions before.
Being on beta blockers destroyed my erections for the last 5 years, finally got off of them and in my head I can no longer get erections. I have done p-shots and multiple medications, but told it’s in my mind now.
Negative: because I couldn’t stay hard even with penetration, my partner was disappointed.
Reality: she told me she had a great time that she really appreciated the attention I gave to her body and can’t wait to do it again. Having a rock hard cock had little outcome on her experience. I was mind reading.
Always worry about finishing early. But I set myself up for failure. She’s just happy to be with me and I’m happy to be with her
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I worry my partner is always disappointed when i struggle to maintain my erection. It feels like a rift and a divide. This impending sense of doom like she’ll leave me.
The evidence isn’t there though. She’s always supported me and reassured me when it’s happened in the past. My erections were good at the start of the relationship. I am physically in great health. It’s all mental
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I always worry my partner will be disappointed i don’t keep an erection but she always tells me how she dosent care. I know it’s all in my head because I can get strong erections by myself
As I read the discussions I have experienced both. In all instances it makes you question your worth and value to your partner and even yourself.
I’ve tried to carry over positive thoughts from my daily personal and professional life, and I’ve noticed that when I do that our makes it easier to stop the negative thoughts in my intimate life
Me too man she’s says it’s fine but holy fuck I need to relax like you said we can do it brother!
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I know that when there is no pressure, I can stay hard for long periods of time. Everything outside of having sex (myself, foreplay, etc) shows me that I can stay hard, but somehow during sex all the doubt comes in. But realistically, I know it’s psychological and nothing physical
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That because I failed the last time we tried to have planned sex to conceive, I’ll never be able to have sex and finished unless it’s totally spontaneous. I know this isn’t true, though, because we have had planned sex a lot of times, even when trying to conceive
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