Just because I was cheated on doesn’t it will happen again
I was getting intimate with my beautiful wife. She was uninhibited and was feeling very sexual.
I was very turned on by her and wanted to fill all her desires. When I was going down on her and finger fucking her beautiful pussy I noticed that my penis wasn’t getting rock hard! While I was able to get it up enough for sex, it wasn’t rock hard the way I like it. Instead it of focusing on all of the sexiness and how erotic my wife was acting I started to only focus on my semi hard penis.
It does make sense that I wasn’t getting as hard as I wanted because my brain went from sex to negative thoughts about my body. I just need to remember sex is fun, exciting and if I just let go and think of the pleasures, I will get hard just like my everyday morning wood.
Just because I didn’t stay hard last time and sex ended then doesn’t mean it will happen again or mean the end of intimacy next time.
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Last time I had sex I was scared I couldn’t get it up
I was worried about disappointing my partner and then I could sense I would spiral if I didn’t get hard. If I didn’t get hard I would start overthinking all the hard work I put into even getting this far and I was scared that not getting hard would negate all my previous effort
I don’t have evidence they would get disappointed and they had been largely supportive before. Also I think for the second thing it’s like a “believe it and it comes true type of thing” and logically there’s no reason I can’t just get hard again.
I was thinking about sex and panicking about it before we fucked. It makes sense I would carry over that tension. And most importantly I got hard at the end when I just focused on the moment. I finished very quickly but I actually allowed myself to do this because sometimes during sex I get it in my head it needs to be a performance and this time I was like fuck it I’m gonna have sex for myself, not her this time. And it was a great and powerful orgasm.
The Last Time I had sex I thought I’m a failure cuz I couldn’t stay hard and get full erection during penetrative sex but my girlfriend was okay with it and she adjusted to just blow me.
I’m a little embarrassed but if this is only psychological ED. I hope I can beat this.
I’m better than this but also I need advices on how to stay hard and get full erections during sex
That my problem will never be solved. I argue that one every day. But it’s clearly not true.
I’m exactly the same, I think that because it’s happened once it will never be solved again. I think that I will be always having to use some form of medication and I won’t be able to satisfy my lover.
This hasn’t actually happened. I have just connected one event to some perceived events in the future.
I can reprogram the though that says I can’t get it up or get aroused when I a pressured sexual situation. Truthfully, so long as I am with a woman that I am turned on by, and I feel safe, then I can have great sex with them
I keep not being able to get hard because I have so many intrusive thoughts almost sabotaging me before sex so that I’ll be able to point to a reason a couldn’t get hard.
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When my partner gets on top and guides me in, I worry that I won’t have a firm enough erection to penetrate. This then becomes a self fulfilling prophesy and then don’t become firm enough
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I have a Categorical Imperative type of thought that I should be able to get it hard and have sex whenever my partner is in mood. That’s not true. Even I have my own moods and I may not be horny when she wants to do it. I should say no in such cases.
My negative thought is a type of categorical imperative. It’s a reoccurring one: „I have to climax simultaneously with my partner otherwise our sex is not really satisfying“
It’s only truly happened one time in my entire life and I somehow connect that experience to my future happiness. All it will really take to solve it if it happens again is some communication with my partner. Even in extremely stressful situations ive been able to atleast kind of get an erection and it always improves with time, so even if all hell breaks loose I’m really not far from getting a full one.
When I can’t get hard it’s not always because I’m failing. Sometimes I’m just not aroused by the situation or the person. Sometimes I’m really tired or stressed. Those aren’t failures.
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That I won’t be able to maintain my erection long enough for intercourse
My erection won’t be hard enough for sex
I can last longer during sex
I can’t get hard enough to penetrate
I think I won’t be able to cum in my wife, even though she is enjoying it, then it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. I can cum just fine when I masturbate
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My idea that I’ll get soft.
Honestly I have only got soft when I get turned off or don’t want to have sex.
It make a lot of sense, just like a girl would say she doesn’t wanna have sex or leave if she gets turned off. If I get turned off I just get soft. It makes honestly perfect sense