That I’ll never get hard again
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That I disappointed my partner because I couldn’t get hard (that she thinks I’m not attracted to her anymore).
That she’s going to think im less of a man.
I’m not going to be aboe to get hard when I need to, and it’s going to be embarrassing and emasculating
I will get soft again once we try penetration.
I felt categorizing my negative thoughts help place them in a box and out of my negative thinking. Then using facts to dismiss them. I told myself I’m going to have ED problems for the rest of my life. Fact - using the tools learnt on MoJo I have had 2 successful sex sessions with my wife. So it being forever just is not true
First let me say this has to be one of the most useful exercises. I challenge the categorical imperative because I feel like I cave into pressure to perform. I am reprogramming these thoughts around “I got to get it up now we entered the bedroom” with “I don’t have to feel aroused straight away because of this. Be patient and let things take its course.”
Negative thought is I failed last time so I will fail again. It is so tiring to fail and result in a bad mood everytime that I am avoiding to have sex so I should stop trying to have sex. This is overgeneralizing. I tried last time will result in different result this time. I should try again to see how it would come out. Go in with open mind and know that I have succeeded in the past so its not a big deal. Just enjoy it.
That this has to be and can’t be fixed
The evidence and experts insist this can be fixed. And I think you should believe in evidence and expert opinion
I couldnt get hard. I’ve had great sex before. I can have great sex again.
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Years of excessive porn and masturbation has numbed feeling, and gives me a severe delayed response which is frustrating
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The change I want won’t happen if I don’t use the tools I’ve learnt from mojo
In the same boat. Hoping that mojo is an approach that can break the rut
I understand now that rewiring my body and my thoughts is possible
The thought that my partner will look for other men if this happens again
That all my friends are more experienced sexually, don’t have these problems and I will never be as good.
I need to rewire my brain to focus on the moment and too not think past it
I am good enough just the way i am, flaws and all
Just because I’m a late bloomer, that doesn’t mean that I will never have a sexual partner.
Me too