I am not in a relationship right now. I deleted Grindr because I needed to work on my own self and my erection issues. It is not a conversation that I want to have with a casual hook up or just a fuck.
I was embarrassed at first and felt like it was hard to talk about. She was kind and expressed acceptance and understanding. But eventually being open and vulnerable lead to her losing respect and breaking up with me suddenly, just days after we talked about making things long term and permanent
It’s something I broached for the first time with my previous partner and it’s always easier once it’s out there. The vast majority of people will be kind and understanding and it will almost certainly make things easier.
I have never done it before. I haven’t been in a long term sexual relationship and since I’ve started noticing issues I have kind of avoided sexual relationships.
Been married for a hot min. But this is a new one for me. So no I haven’t discussed it with the wife. Feel like it may be awkward
I honestly feel pretty comfortable about it but I also feel like I was forced into the situation. I had to start talking about it because I was experiencing ED with her and figured it was a lot easier to own than to try to play it off.
With my last partner I’ve tried before to have convo(s) surrounding it, and they weren’t successful. I’m not having any intimate connections at the moment, so I will try practicing this in the future if the opportunity presents itself.
With my last partner it was difficult to talk about, she would immediately get into her head that i did not fancy her and would take my lack of performance very personally, instead of trying to talk it would be ‘take a pill’.
I think the open ness of communication from the get go would lay a solid foundation with a new partner, so will bear this in mind when i venture back into the dating pool
I had a first discussion with my wife and owned it because she was disheartened a couple times when I had ED. Once I opened up, she felt a lot better and shared more about her experience. She is understanding and supportive of me and working through this. She can see it affects me and I am fortunate she loves being with me and wants to work with me through it.
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I have had a couple conversations but still feel hesitant and awkward talking about it.
Honestly for me it was embarrassing at first, we’ve been married for 20 years and I’ve never focused a conversation on my challenges so it was new but there was no point hiding it, it’s right in front of both of us. So I used a few tools from this app and it’s helped a lot. To the point actually where she has tried on her own to help. So all positive here.
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I have a new love interest and i want to get things right with her. I think it would be beneficial if i discuss my needs and solicit hers. I will talk about how my old relationship affected my sexual confidence.
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It’s difficult to discuss but it helps to have a wife that is willing to work through those issues
Very open with my partner it’s lovely.
Very open about it
More comfortable than I ever imagined.
Decent. I have done it on a number of occasions. It’s never easy though
In the past I’ve felt too embarrassed to talk about it that openly. But more recently I’ve been able to own it a bit more and that’s felt pretty liberating and has helped me feel a bit less worried about things going wrong.
My wife of 38 years is a good listener and full of encouragement
We’ve always been open to tough conversations & she’s very supportive. It’s just hard to fight off the feelings that I come across as less sexy or less confident to her. But that’s my issue.