At the start of my relationship everything was amazing sexually with my partner but then I got erectile dysfunction a couple of times and because I didn’t understand the reasons for it I know my girlfriend blamed herself and it triggered her insecurities about herself - this led me to blame myself for making her feel bad and put a load of pressure on myself which ended up making it happen more often and turns into a vicious cycle
I have started to try be more open with my partner about this and although it is a difficult and embarrassing subject to talk about, I know that making her understand it is not because of her is the most important thing to solve this
Im comfortable with it. I have practice talking through very uncomfortable discussions and know first hand how having them early can help a dynamic.
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It’s embarrassing and I feel like less of a man. Getting the conversation started is hard, but once moving it seems to get easier.
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It’s difficult to do, but my partner isn’t a mind reader. So it’s important that I communicate what I’m thinking and feeling so that we can move forward in the best way possible.
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I feel comfortable talking with my wife.
I avoid it because she gets upset and then we fight
I feel very vulnerable talking about sexual issues.
It seems a bit intimidating to talk about but it seems freeing to know that anxiety itself could disappear and the problem as well if I speak to her about it
I’ve talked to my wife about it but it doesn’t seem to help. She acts understanding until the next time it happens, and then she blames herself and questions if I still love her.
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I have no issue discussing it personally, you just never know how someone will react to the info, my current partner has flipped between being understanding and also being annoyed because what I think is an issue isn’t an issue for her, which can be confusing internally
Pretty comfortable. I have a very supportive and loving partner who is willing to work with me.
Embarrassed if it’s a new partner. If it’s with someone who I’ve been with I would feel sad or depressed and get anxiety.
I find it hard to do it before the fact it feels expecting
I feel apprehensive about bringing it up but I know it will be for the best. I’ve somewhat talked about it before withcpartners and it helped alleviate some of the issues
i have spoken about it with my partner a little bit and she is very understanding, it helped getting it off my chest and explaining that it is nothing to do with her and it is a personal issue that i am working on. i’m very glad i did this in the early stages of our relationship so that when it arises these days there is an understanding between us of what’s going on
My wife and I spoke about it, and we really came to an understanding that it’s not a one and done chat, open line of communication is key.