Been with my partner for 14 years, got engaged this last year. Had one issue where I went soft and it messed me up psychologically. Being able to talk about it and not dance around the issues made me more confident in the long run.
It’s definitely worth getting your partner involved. Let them know what’s going through your head, your progress, your goals, etc. There are a good bit of couples activities on here that are worth checking out!
I’m nervous to bring it up… since practicing with this app my problems are getting better. If the time comes I have to discuss it, now I’m ready. The silence isn’t worth holding onto anymore, I must be open when I must.
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Feel like it would be weird to bring up before any issues are encountered and kind of unnecessary. Feel like it is good to have a plan of having the discussion if issues are encountered though. That conversation can be chill. I’ve had it before when having issues and it helped each time
I feel like it all depends on the partner’s understanding. But I agree that owning one’s situation is empowering, not shameful.
I think bringing up the fact that sometimes there is an issue is the way I’d approach this. Then, if there is an issue, you’ve already flagged it, but if there’s not then it’s a win all round. Flagging a potential problem would certainly reduce the stress to perform for me
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I recently started seeing a guy and made a commitment to myself to be more communicative in intimate situations to break the cycle of dissociation and spectatoring I have experienced since my teens. I didn’t need to say much, just flagged that I am generally a bit nervous about sex. He was really understanding and just having that 1 minute convo dissipated so much pressure for me. The result was that we actually got sexual much quicker than I usually do (like second date lol) but it was because I was honest I felt more free to explore rather than hide in fear. It’s scary to be that open but defo more empowering and also gives your partner the opportunity to support you (as opposed to the instant rejection you imagine)
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Pretty open
I am very open and willing to have these conversations with my wife, and sometimes it can be a little difficult, but it is worth it in the end.
Wow, i love this. I always avoiding dating because I was scared. You owned and it really helped you. THANK YOU!
with partners it’s easy. with one night stands it’s really hard. last two times i tried, they became visibly frustrated
I need to, and should have been always, taking this more seriously, better considering the people I am selecting as sex partners. I did recently reveal this to someone in a light, humorous way, but it has still dampened things, I think. Still, it has kept me from a a more honest place where I feel I can past this.
I feel like it’s uncomfortable and maybe it will never not be that way - but it is necessary
Having the conversation is tough at first, but continuing to communicate allows it to get easier. If you aren’t talking about it, you are on your own for resolving it.
I’ve had issues with people in the past where I’ve expressed I have ED with partners that hasn’t been received well and has left me feeling anxious for future couplings
Helps a ton to open up and share!
My upcoming partner. We have a vacation meetup for the first time in 1.5 weeks. I was completely honest with her on having issues getting and maintaining an erection even with ED meds. It felt good to get it off my chest. I’ve never been completely honest with a partner about the ED meds in the past
I have not been able to understand why I have been having erection issues, but I now now that stress and these other things like performance and anxiety I’ve been putting on myself has resulted in this so with my misunderstanding I think my partner thought it was her and that put us in a tough spot. Now I must own it and talk with her openly about all of this and get it solved
Sometimes I think about trying and then only bringing up the issue if it arises. but the idea of mentioning it first would definitely take the pressure off me to perform, I’m not totally sure how I would communicate it but just something as easy as when you’re making out just saying “Hey I just wanted to let you know that sex makes me a bit nervous and sometimes that is reflected in my body, it’s a problem i’ve had since my teens and i’m working on it, but i just wanted to let you know that if it does happen it’s not got anything to do with you” would work