I need to bring the lack of sex with my wife out into the open.
Avoiding conflict and feeling more confident to handle confrontation
Discussing things with my coworker, who I feel often is disingenuous with his motivations
My default personality is that of a peacemaker/caretaker. I need to shift my mindset
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Not being defensive and aggravated by small passive aggressive comments.
not being defensive and getting mad with small arguments
Working out our long term goals
I need to work on not exploding and getting in a back and forth with my girlfriend. I then shut down and go silent. Sometimes not even wanting to speak to her or talk to her for a day or so
I need to work on not getting into defensive mode 1st thing in an argument
I need to work on trying not to solve the situation myself or protecting their feelings. I need to push myself to have those tough conversations and not be afraid of the conflict
I need to discuss with my partner about our compatibility and the lack of intimacy in the relationship.
Knowing how to approach my situation with my wife, when I can’t perform in the bedroom. She doesn’t feel loved or beautiful and I don’t know how to make it better.
I relate a lot to the caretaker portion. I need to let her process things on her own, while on my side I need to listen better
My partner is a sort of an avoidant and usually retreats when he feels out of his comfort zone instead of trying to solve things immediately. I’ve sort of being the caretaker to show how we can both go together through this overwhelming time and be better at the other side, but he does need to improve his communication.
My partner and I both have insecurities. I’m insecure about my sexual ability, lack of relationship experience, and whether I’m the right match for her. She is insecure about her health, past relationship trauma, and whether she’s the right match for me.
Mostly it’s been fine, but because we both have these concerns bubbling under the surface, we need to get better at expressing and talking about them, rather than shutting them down, getting stressed, and letting unhealthy conflict arise.
Really listening and understanding, and taking care, not caretaking
Learning to listen more and understand what they’re saying and let them “vent” in a way and get out what they need to. Then acknowledge that first, maybe ask a bit more about it to get to the real crux of it all… and THEN go into resolving mode (and include them/ask them about how they’d like to resolve things) so things actually do get resolved in the end as well as just expressed.
Conflicts in relationship. My conflict avoidance stems from childhood, but it means that I avoid tough conversations until I react and cause a whole other issue.
Instead, open communication is the key to a successful relationship
Tbh there’s none at the moment
Relationship conflicts. I am too scared to fully express my needs for a multitude of reasons, and this has subconsciously told my partner she can push past my boundaries, which makes me feel unseen and uncomfortable. This has happened because I cared “too much” for not making her unhappy without prioritising my own emotional state, meaning overall now I have less to give emotionally making us both disconnected.