I have tended to avoid conflict in my past relationships. Partly to avoid disrupting the status quo and having to make big life changing decisions, but also to avoid having to be critical of the other person or really admit how my faults were affecting the relationship
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I need to work on sharing my feelings and avoiding the possibility of conflict in fear of upsetting them. I need to be more assertive to make sure my needs are heard and need to avoid care giving
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I need to feel comfortable sharing my needs and requesting time to do so without fearing that it will escalate into a conflict
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Valuing myself in a way where she doesn’t feel devalued when that’s not what I want
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Being honest and confident about how i feel and expressing my feelings so i dont blame him or vilify him. Make sure im being heard and valued and respected and ensure im doing the same thing regarding his feelings.
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Allowing unresolved emotions to simmer under the surface until small disagreements/conflicts become charged from the start. I need to be honest about my needs else I will get lost in compromise and resentment toward my partners
Such a big part of it is really just getting your partner to feel heard.
Giving yourself grace is really key to moving forward.
Clear upfront communication from me about how difficult it can be for me to express myself in certain situations.
When we have a possible upcoming sexual encounter, if I’m feeling nervous or anxious about it, I need to be more open and honest about that.
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I think I need to start putting my ego aside more in arguments that I start unintentionally. These arguments start cuz I trigger an emotion with something I say, I can kinda detect it but I respond in a dismissive way cuz I know myself I didn’t mean the thing I said negatively. Then I get upset that she’s even upset about what I said and I defend myself instead of listening the right way
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Questions. I always make statements, as I feel like I understood everything from someone’s expressions. I need to listen more and question more.
I always go from 0 - 100 very quickly. If someone has a crack at me I meet them. It’s hard for me to stay calm.
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I need to work on approaching arguments and conflict rather than run away from it
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Lack of intimacy and sex is causing us to disconnect
being able to remain composed while genuinely engaging, along with confidently communicating whatever it is is that i want to speak about. responding effectively in a way that doesn’t undermine myself or the other person.
Lack of communication from my manager which has lead to lack a low key conflict
Bam!
Occasionally I have conversations with my kids mom and she always approaches her needs in an attacking form and constantly puts me on the defensive. I can use this to help maintain a healthy emotional level for me during these hard conversations and make her feel more supported in trying to understand how we can coparent the best way we can
Not quite sure where to start. I have been critisized by my wife nit being trustable anymore, not having brought her orgasm and not be understanding her at all. Apparently those emotions she had for a long time without really sharing them an now it escalated dramatically. I am hearing things which are not true and exaggerated strongly just to break me and making me weak. I am urged to fight back but she stops listening. Which makes it harder.
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