What does your inner critic sound like? (Part 1)

My inner critic is myself telling me “well it didn’t work last time so what makes you think it will work this time”. I try and snap myself out of it and try and focus on pleasuring my girlfriend, but then I feel like I’m making a job out of it and then my thoughts creep back in, whereas when it all just happens naturally and don’t think about things and being in the moment, it’s all fantastic

I think my performance issues started with an ex who didn’t trust me in the bedroom. Now I worry if I’m going to be bad

My inner critic says my relationship is going to be over if I can’t get it up

I’m confident I can make it happen in terms of her wanting her to have sex, but I’m worried I won’t get it up. I’m panicking for no reason I know but it’s still there!

My inner critic is the other me, it’s like a dual personality thing. I hear me in my head and partly sitting on my shoulder saying just relax, but willing my erection to happen quickly before it can’t start to tell me it’s not hard enough. It’s then telling me to hurry up before I go soft which puts pressure on myself and takes all enjoyment pleasure and feeling away. I’m almost waiting for my inner critic to interrupt . I’ve only just realised this.

My inner critic is already suggesting excuses to avoid the situation. And districting me from the actual moment . She is telling me to slow down and avoid the situation at all costs.

My critic is like someone towering over me shouting that im unable and useless

My inner critic feels like the part of myself that is all my anger and resentment wrapped up into one. It is blunt, emotionless, and strictly logical, based on just my past experiences used to predict the future. It is cold and cynical, resisting any change or hope for a better experience. It feels more like a small worm in the back of my head rather than a person or external body that is weighing over me.

My inner critic is just a voice, if I had to give it a form it’s like a cloud that comes over my head and speaks to me telepathically. It’s not usually there in the moment, it’s only after I’ve had an unsuccessful encounter that I feel it coming over me. I try not to let it affect the interaction even more, I talk with the girl and pretend like everything is fine, but when I’m alone I feel confused and like a failure. I begin to question my sexuality, and why I am the way I am.

my inner critic is my own voice, and usually its saying what will happen if the issue isnt resolved, my partner will be unhappy, leave me or think less of me

My inner critic attempts to put pressure in advance of the event happening, creating major doubt in my head

Definetly seas this is where it normally goes wron, then shit hear we go and finally fucking come on whats wrong with you.

My inner critic started from my first sexual experience. I watch porn before and had a plan and expectation. When I couldn’t get it up my friends who was downstairs starting to laugh and joke. Which continued. I then went with someone less attractive / no connected to I had no problem. Now when I really like a woman the problem starts however if I don’t care about them I am fine.

Cause of porn

Confident I know what I’m doing and im good at it and it will be good. Not confident I’ll stay hard.

Critic is saying. You’re not going to get it up and it’s going to be ruined.

My inner critic is me in my head reminding myself of past times when I couldn’t get it up or when I had it up and it went away fast or times when I’d finish fast.

I’m confused whether I should be friends with my inner critic so he’s less intimidating, or whether to fight him

My inner voice always tells me during sex that I need too hurry up and get in done before I lose my erection. This causes me to get all up in my head removing the joy that used to come naturally.

My inner critic is smaller and also me, just outside myself. It reminds me that I may fail and am nervous about the situation and then "of course, what did we expect?’ now its done.

My inner critic makes sex feel like a job or an interview. The critic gives me this anxiety in my stomach that is the same feeling I get when I have to perform on the basketball court. Instead of fear of missing the shot, I fear of not getting hard when I need to.