Remember the last time that you disappointed someone that meant alot to you and how awkward and shameful it felt? Well keep remembering
There is something wrong with you, and you are a failure
A feeling of inadequacy. Not achieving my life’s goals. Not pleasing my partner. A feeling that I shouldn’t be here, I shouldn’t be with such a beautiful partner and that I’m undeserving of such love.
Overwhelming feeling of dread. The inevitable.
Need to please others
My inner critic doesn’t have a voice, it’s just the reenactment of the feeling of shame I had the following time I had sex after my first ever “fail”, my partner back then said to me, “if you don’t perform again, I don’t want you to feel bad”… I was already feeling terrible.
Fearing abandonment, Tht someone will step int my shoes
Like a nagging version of my wife telling me how i can’t do it.
I don’t really feel anything. Just an apathetic numbness, a void .
You are not manly enough and you will lose that person because of that
You’re afraid of letting her down, of being seen as a failure, of ruining her chance at a decent sex life.
My inner critic tells me I’m not man enough to perform
Remember when your ex was angry you couldn’t get hard, after a brilliant date, accusing you of not fancying her, making it about her. Making me feel every time that I wouldn’t get hard, or I would lose it again and we would split because of me.
Something that has power and control over me
Tells me I’m not man enough to please my partner and takes away any confidence I have. Pounces on any opportunity where something isn’t quite right in the bedroom
Inner critic lacks self confidence, while creating fear and uncertainty. It often focuses on the cases that explain why I won’t have success.
That I’m probably not going to get hard
Doubts that I will be able to get an erection and hold it long enough to initiate sex and, if I’m able, I will either lose my erection, cum immediately, or go soft and cum weakly.
Tells me I won’t work later that night, esp with no pharm. enhancers.
I’ll be laughed out of the bedroom and my amazing new romance will deflate like my limp penis.