My inner critic tells me to doubt my ability to perform and makes me nervous about having sex and getting hard and staying hard. It takes me out of the moment and makes it difficult for me to finish.
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In my case it is always the same, a little voice saying: please dont go away, please dont go away (to my erection) and my mind starts wondering if it has in fact gone away, after that, my erection is gone, all my fears starts coming true and it is impossible to get it back
My inner critic says you’re not going to be able to perform you’re going to go soft and not be able to pleasure her, I then feel like I won’t get that connection with her and she won’t be with me because of it
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It says that if you don’t perform, she will leave you
My inner critic starts saying “it’s gonna happen again”
This hasn’t happened to me before and I think it’s a physical manifestation of the thought pattern that I’m not enough for her, that I’ll eventually disappoint her. The irony… is so palpable.
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I’m not good enough and I can’tdeliver the pleasure an I’llhave to apologize so I do everything for her to make sure she gets off and not to take offense
My inner critic tells me im not good enough that the same thing that happened to me to cause this issue will happen me again bringing me back to square one. Its ridiculous we were not thought these this happen when we were young
I think mine is less of as voice and more a feeling of numbness and a desire to not be numb and enjoy myself. I don’t want to hurt myself or others, and I want to perform well so that I’m not hurt or replaced. Or maybe if I let loose too much I’ll embarrass myself. It’s general feeling of anxiety and numbness.
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I wonder how it’s going to go tonight. I hope I do good. I hope I perform well. Make it good. It’s happening. Do something
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Mine stems from a fear of emotional attachment and a pressure to please and satisfy in order to ‘deserve’ penetrative sex.
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“Well, this is going to be embarrassing”
It’s like I want to think that everything is going to go well and that I’m going to do it great, but at the moment I start to think that it’s not true and that it will be the opposite and I go in a loop.
It comes from the fear that if I’m not the best in every way, then I will get rejected and that I have no power or control over anything
It’s like other anxiety thinking traps, I try to tell myself not to think about it and be in the moment but it always comes back and the longer I’m not hard, the more I’m aware of it
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What makes you think you’ll get hard enough this time? You’re just going to go soft and disappoint another beautiful girl again
My inner critic isn’t so much a voice, but more a general feeling of dread if I can’t get it up or keep it up.
Dismissive, self-deprecating, says “They can do better” “They’ll find out you don’t know what you’re doing”
He says “all is lost. Focus on financials and physical strength because you are unlovable”
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This is awkward, how will they feel when I have to explain it’s not them it’s me. Will they believe me?
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