My inner critic comes to me in many aspects of life, saying things like “don’t eat that ur already fat, don’t bother trying to bring her home you can’t get hard anyway, you’ll embarrass yourself”
He will think I’m bad at sex and leave me
I see myself standing next to me, head over my shoulder, telling me “You’re gonna lose it again” as I am thrusting.
My inner critic hours before the situation occurs is already making me worried about the possibility of sex happening. He’s reminding me in my own voice about the last time I lost my erection. And how it’s going to happen again. How maybe I should be upfront with my performance anxiety so they aren’t offended when it happens.
My inner critic is my own voice telling me things like, “you have to get fully hard or this won’t work out again,” or “don’t finish too early.” It makes it harder to focus on the moment, and causes me to worry. I often find myself outside of the situation rather than being present; because of this, by the time intercourse is about to begin, I find I am not hard enough to continue.
I feel like it’s hard to concentrate and gives answers on this inner voice. It’s not quiet, it’s not loud, it doesn’t have a tone or personality, it’s just me thinking it in the moment, and it’s always present. It’s there, and makes it overwhelming to function, clouding my mind so much I can forget where I am for a brief moment. Always worried on what the girl thinks, how will they feel now, how are they comparing me, I’m just going to embarrass myself etc.
The inner critic is me. It tells me I’m not good enough. Tells me whatever I do won’t be enough. And then I run away because I fear failure and rejection and am loo lazy to try.
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My inner critic is a my voice, but it is driven by something my 2nd sexual partner ever said to me before sex. I believe this is where my problem began. We were about to have sex and I was hard, but having a hard time getting it in for whatever reason. She said “Tom never had to ask for help with that” talking about her ex. That absolutely crushed my spirit and induced a crippling fear of sex that I am still struggling with 15 years later. Now when I am about to have sex, my mind zones in on that failure, and all the other failures I have faced since then due to that one moment.
My inner critic is my own voice usually I think, focusing more on worrying that I wont be able to get it up/stay hard.
I know I’m trying to prove to myself that I’m man enough to have sex with my wife, and want to feel “masculine” no physical pain is associated with it just a limp noodle.
This has been going on for a few weeks now, although is very recent I’ve noticed that even trying to jerk off off it doesn’t react. I’m really in my head but not sure what’s going on.
My inner critic feels like it is always there. I will be there with my girlfriend about to have sex. But he’s right there with us. Just always adding the glass half empty perspective. When we start he’s asking “why aren’t you hard yet” and as we get deeper in maybe I am a little hard he tells me I’m not hard enough. And when we get ready to move from foreplay to sex he’s there to tell me I will lose it right away. And I try not to listen to him but he seems to win.
He’s not just there during sex though. Throughout the day he is there to remind me how I am less of a man because I can’t please a women. He’s always got something to say.
My inner critic is my ex wife. She used to scream at me for not being able to kiss her according to her expectation…she didn’t like foreplay either. She used to compare our sexual encounter with that of hers with her ex.
My inner critic is my wife
I dont hear my inner critic
I had sexual encounter twice
First time i was not able to erect and the second time same but the second time i tried getting erect and i came early so wasn’t able to penetrate my partner at all.
Now i don’t want this to happen again and i am nervous if it is only performance anxiety or do i have some problem.
Stop stressing
Mine is myself. Just another side of my personality that throws little jabs to bring me down. But it only comes out when I truly care about the person I am about to be involved with.
my inner critic is my past self, saying that I won’t be able to maintain my erection. It says that I should rely on viagra or other sex pills. It also says that I do not have enough stamina or sleep to continue.
My inner critic is my own voice. It usually starts to come up when I start thinking of sex, this could be a couple of hours before or a couple of minutes before. Once I think of it… The h om ice pops up.
The voice has a dual personality, one that tries to encourage and one that cautionary in nature. The side that encourages is usually on some 'just relax, try not to overthink. You’re smart and understand your condition, so you got this… Breathe in and relax, this will be fine. If it’s not, your wife understands… And she’s supportive.
The cautionary side is full of self doubt and paints the worst case scenario … What if it happens again this time? Cumon dude, you’ve achieved so much in your life and this is the thing you’re suffering with - really!? Or yea she’s understanding… But for how long. She’s gonna leave you eventually. You’re not going to be able to make children if you’re stuck like this. What if this doesn’t go away… How can you even have such a problem - this is you…
Alas, its the negative tone that prevails more often that not…
My inner critic lives in my gut. And as I get closer it makes me feel like I am going to fail with sex.
My inner critic pops in my head letting me know I’ve failed at sex before and it can just happen again so it does. It pops in my head all throughout the day. Just to remind me he’s still around.