It fits my exact needs whilst sex doesn’t in other ways
Did not realize female actor artificially lubricate themselves to perform squirt scenes.
I wasn’t aware that “porn addiction” isn’t medically recognized, I always thought I may have been addicted, but it’s kind of nice to feel like I’m not an “addict”
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Porn is not a problem as long as you can pursue your life as usually.
Situational erectile issues was such a relief to hear described. The difference between solo and partnered sex, man, spot on.
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Being exposed to porn at a young age has definitely warped the way I think about sex and women. Even though I think I’m not someone who objectifies or treats women poorly, it still has caused sex to be on my mind all the time and for so long that I never considered the alternative could be possible.
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I started using porn too much as a stress relief, which has since caused me to have situational erectile issues with partners.
I am taking a break from it while I work through this programme and hope to have a healthier relationship with it by the end
Porn has played a prominent role in my life for virtually half of it. I believe it to be the source of erectile issues in real life sexual situations, so am taking a break from using it. However, I find my mental fixation on virtual sex/sexual pleasure has morphed into 'shopping’s escorts and conversations with them to arrange sex (even if no meeting happens). This feels equally problematic as it keeps sex as a virtual exercise and not a real life one. I have seen a couple of escorts in real life and had the same issue as with other partners. I do find this behaviour very closely linked to consumption of alcohol, driving dopamine chasing, this act being one of many (including scrolling, clothes purchasing). While porn use remains low I am still, in moments, struggling with related online content and masturbation keeping me in the cycle.
I have been compulsively watching porn for a long time. Most of the time I do feels unintentional, unmotivated, and unwilled. I believe it’s a reliable way to relieve built up stress, and I have yet to come up with healthier ways to do so.
I have been compulsively watching porn since I was a kid and prone masturbating to it that I think it rewired my brain to feel sensitivity a certain way where I can’t get keep an erection when having actual sex.
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I’ve been watching porn for 3-4 hours a day and masturbating (usually soft) to it since 2018 and it’s not been healthy for me
I have been watching porn for a long time and not having enough real sex
I often use it as a stress relief and a crutch when things don’t go my way in real life encounters
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I watch porn because I like to look at beautiful women. Although I can definitely see where comparing myself or my sex life to it can be harmful. Not to mention I feel the need to go further in categories I wouldn’t went it becomes excessive
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I think a good rule of thumb would be to limit watching porn to when my baseline mood is good. I have nothing against it, but when I’m in a down mode and spend a day mostly in bed I think it may amplify my sense of guilt and self-dissapointment. Also worth reflecting on what actual sex looks like to not beat myself up when I don’t last the 30 minutes in porn (or remotely close for that matter).
I still can’t decide if masturbating without porn or just not masturbating at all regardless is best for me
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Learning that porn actors take erection pills, that women inject water into their vaginas with syringes, that when a male actor can’t ejaculate, another stuntman ejaculates instead, and that a movie shoot takes 4 hours made me laugh and feel relieved that I won’t compare myself to other men.
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I believed that porn made me not pursue sex in my relationship, so that sex became very rare. However, now I am not sure if it was the other way around?
This is actually really helpful for me. When I’m learning a lot about myself is that my issues with erectile dysfunction as far or less to do with how other see me and everything to do with myself. I’ve actively said that I want to be able to have sex for 20+ minutes, but the average is 2 to 8 minutes. I’m someone who’s only ever slept with two people his whole life and I’m nearing 34 to have the expectation to be able to have sex for 20 minutes is insane.The issue isn’t the porn I’m watching is that I am forgetting that it’s just a movie.
Watching porn is not a bad thing as long as it is used in a way to enhance or contribute to pleasure solo or with partner. Keep in mind to keep in touch with reality.