What do you want to change about your porn use? (Part 1)

I want to change that it’s the only sexual interaction that I know. It’s been a crutch to think I don’t need to step out in the dating world and overcome my fear of being sexual with another person. I don’t want it to be my stress relief anymore. I makes me compare myself to the actors and that just isn’t healthy.

Be mindful about why I want to watch it. Otherwise I’m happy with my porn use

I want to use porn to add variety into my sex life occasionally. I don’t want to use porn to numb out and leave my body. I’d rather read comics or play with my dog to soothe myself. Or create a pleasure list and take things from there.

I want to stop watching porn if not all together, then very sparingly. I feel it makes me over sexy Alize things in my life, and question if I’m getting turned on enough from regular sex.

I’ve mostly kicked the habit already. The only thing I need to hammer down is not to watch it when I feel stressed or depressed. Being able to find some other way to cope would be nice.

I used to have a compulsive relationship with porn and it has been changing overtime as I get more comfortable with my sexuality- and even with my lack of or semi erections. More recently I’ve been building a trusting and sexually satisfying relationship with this new boyfriend so I feel like I’ve overcome that compulsion. I now rarely watch porn but there’s still that shame at the back of my mind - my inner critique. I guess this is what I wanna change.

I want to Batch porn

I want to stop using porn because I do feel that it’s having a negative impact on my relationship. I used to be fine with it but got really addicted when I used it to relieve stress from a very difficult job. I now almost can’t stop using it and feel guilty afterwards because I’m not giving that attention to my partner. I’m talking things like hiding in the bathroom when she’s home to get off. It puts me in difficult situations where I procrastinate and almost always happens when I am bored or have time to myself. Need to take a break and focus on other self soothing techniques.

I’m straight but the only porn I watch is gay porn. Ok May be I’m not completely straight. It’s usually oral sex and I believe that it’s like a little reminder of how life used to be when I was younger. As a teen and in my early 20’s I had some gay sexual experiences with my best friend. It was a time when I felt free, without the burdens of having to be successfull, have a house etc. these days I watch porn when I masturbate, which usb usually at the end of the week so I’m relieving much built up tension and stress. In gay sexual activity I felt like I didn’t need to please someone. I wasn’t going to be judged for not making a woman orgasm or for losing an erection, which always resulted in me being able to get a normal erection and maintain it. I was always receiving fellatio. So this feeling of safety and relaxed sexual exploration is associated with gay sec and not heterosexual sex. And when I use porn it’s to amplify my fantasy of being in that safe place. The mischeviousness Cam talks about, that’s also a part of it. May be I’m actually homophobic because i see my gay sexual experiences as something weird. It’s become a kinky thing.
After using gay porn to masturbate I would always feel dirty and a bit sick of myself and my desires. I can’t remember what they call it but it’s a feeling of remorse after cumming. Buyer’s remorse? Haha May be not.
If I was to change something about my porn use, which was always occasional, would be not to judge myself for using it. It would also be to find a healthier way to self soothe and not use mastrubating to feel a sense freedom and nostalgia. It would be to feel the freedom and innocence of exploration in all areas of my life without is having to have a concrete result. To feel ok with just exploring being what it is and not judging myself for the end result.
It’s like being an artist. Art can be a practice or a means to an end. If we’re continually looking to make money from what we make we’ll be result orientated and will judge our work by how much money we make. If we are in a practice, it’s piece we make is a stepping stone to the next.
I want my sex life to be a practice and not a means to an end, which is usually needing to look like a virile man that can satisfy any woman with multiple orgasms. And hence I want porn to be something I use if I need to have that visual stimulation but with an awareness of it not being something I need. If I need it then I have to look deeper as to why.

I’m straight but the only porn I watch is gay porn. Ok May be I’m not completely straight. It’s usually oral sex and I believe that it’s like a little reminder of how life used to be when I was younger. As a teen and in my early 20’s I had some gay sexual experiences with my best friend. It was a time when I felt free, without the burdens of having to be successfull, have a house etc. these days I watch porn when I masturbate, which usb usually at the end of the week so I’m relieving much built up tension and stress. In gay sexual activity I felt like I didn’t need to please someone. I wasn’t going to be judged for not making a woman orgasm or for losing an erection, which always resulted in me being able to get a normal erection and maintain it. I was always receiving fellatio. So this feeling of safety and relaxed sexual exploration is associated with gay sec and not heterosexual sex. And when I use porn it’s to amplify my fantasy of being in that safe place. The mischeviousness Cam talks about, that’s also a part of it. May be I’m actually homophobic because i see my gay sexual experiences as something weird. It’s become a kinky thing.
After using gay porn to masturbate I would always feel dirty and a bit sick of myself and my desires. I can’t remember what they call it but it’s a feeling of remorse after cumming. Buyer’s remorse? Haha May be not.
If I was to change something about my porn use, which was always occasional, would be not to judge myself for using it. It would also be to find a healthier way to self soothe and not use mastrubating to feel a sense freedom and nostalgia. It would be to feel the freedom and innocence of exploration in all areas of my life without is having to have a concrete result. To feel ok with just exploring being what it is and not judging myself for the end result.
It’s like being an artist. Art can be a practice or a means to an end. If we’re continually looking to make money from what we make we’ll be result orientated and will judge our work by how much money we make. If we are in a practice, it’s piece we make is a stepping stone to the next.
I want my sex life to be a practice and not a means to an end, which is usually needing to look like a virile man that can satisfy any woman with multiple orgasms. And hence I want porn to be something I use if I need to have that visual stimulation but with an awareness of it not being something I need. If I need it then I have to look deeper as to why.

If anything, I want to change the frequency of my porn use. For a major part of my life I have used it as a way to cope with negative emotions, or as a way to be naughty. So, if I could begin with being honest with myself, and then seeing if I’d be willing to take a break from it for a little while (only to see how I’d cope without it), then I would consider that a good start.

It used to be an issue before, but not now. I do sometimes binge though once in a a while and I feel like it contributes to premature ejaculation because I’m weirdly training myself to cum faster.

To stop comparing my wife to what I see other than that don’t have any issues with open just look at it to release when I haven’t had sex in a while

I want to change how often I use it. And to stop procrastinating life for masturbation I tend to do that sometimes

Nothing

Porn has become an unhealthy addiction that is sabotaging my relationship. I need to become less focused on the erotic fantasies that porn offers and more focused on my wife.

Stop watching the same kind of videos and to stop being so hard on myself for watching porn

I’d like not to use porn when I should be working or doing other tasks

No weird shit

No weird stuff