I have cut back/stopped watching porn as I was expecting a certain physique from my partner and that was making it hard to maintain erection
I want to not feel ashamed or like Iām just feeding my addiction.
I would like to limit porn to occasionally only, and only for fun and pleasure. Not several times a week to release stress or when Iām bored.
Stop using porn as a trigger and instead touching or looking real woman as a trigger.
No more masturbation when bored at home
Watching/reading it reminds me of how much more effort it takes for me to get aroused enough to have sex. Itās like a whole part of my life is missing.
Maybe mix up the content of porn I watch more so thereās less reliance on specificity. Next partner I get, be more transparent on these kinks, or quickly accept life doesnāt work like that. I think I should stop watching as much porn in virtual reality too, as it adds to the layer of immersion and expectation
I developed a feet/tickling fetish from when i was young and believed that led to some of my issues in bed because i was instantly able to get an erection when watching those type of videos as opposed to other things and other experiences. though i know thatās not the main issue i still feel better refraining from those videos which i have for months because itās allowed me to explore some more common things that are a usual turn on for both parties in the bedroom and has allowed me to become more in tune with myself in efforts to better myself.
I want to change the mentality and masculinity idea that porn has. The men are always super fit and always super hard, and i think that has affected my overall confidence when Iām not āperformingā in the same manner.
Its shame based. Id like to go back to self visualizations like fantasies about that high school girl in the back seat of my car and re inacting my own personal expiriencesā¦ not someone elses.
I want to avoid using porn whenever I am bored or feeling stressed. I want to take control of my porn use. Going forward I will watch porn once a day at the most and only in the evening
I think I used to watch it because I was horny, which is normal.
But with time passing by, I started feeling it was my only way to relieve my arousal because I was single for years. And after a while it was my way to deal with loneliness.
Like saying, āI donāt need a partner, I am ok. If I feel horny, I watch porn, masturbate and I can carry on with my life. I donāt need anyoneā.
Probably not just that.
So now, I want to watch it for entertainment only.
I am not alone anymore.
And even if I were, thatās not the solution.
Recognize if porn is an issue with my current ED issues.
I want to be aroused by simpler porn. Itās escalated to the point of having to watch unrealistic standards being perceived like absolutely massive breasts or toys representing dicks that are impossibly large.
When I started noticing my erection issues, my first thought was porn use. Iād been regularly watching porn since I was 10, so I figured I must have fried my brain somehow. And I knew it was an issue when I tried to quit and couldnāt. For almost four years, I couldnāt get more than a couple weeks without falling back into it and when I did, it would be for weeks at a time. I kept making excuses like I wonāt be with anyone soon since Iām single. I finally had a negative sexual encounter recently that made me kick it entirely. I havenāt looked at porn in almost two months, and honestly I feel better. I have more time. I had a bad habit of trying to make the high last instead of orgasming and I would feel bad afterwords because I knew I wanted to quit but couldnāt. I would also then have brain fog for hours afterwards almost like a reminder. Iām hesitant to even try to come back to āhealthyā porn use since Iāve managed to break free from it, but I donāt want to stigmatize it in my mind either. As someone with some pretty intense kinks, I could try watching more vanilla videos and less frequently.
I think I should start watching āvanillaā porn more and less of what I really fetishize. My fetish is not necessarily sex related and may be the reason I have a hard time performing or even wanting to perform for my partner
When I have sex, I enjoy both the sex and the orgasm, but with porn I only care about orgasming. I wish I could capture 10% of the pleasure and stimulus I receive from the act of sex.
In reviewing this section, I can clearly see that my porn habits were a result of a piece of my anxiety that had not been addressed
Not to feel like Iām messing with erections in sex. Not to use as source of security for getting proper erections. Keep use to minimal.
Iāve decreased my porn usage drastically. Initially I thought watching it was a problemā¦ but in hindsight I actually had a pretty ok relationship with porn.
Iām ok with the frequency that I watch nowā¦ If anything, Iād probably like to not feel guilty after I watch porn, coz I occasionally doā¦ And possibly diversify my fantasies
Not much, maybe try exploring some different scenarios in porn to broaden my horizons