What do you want to change about your porn use?

(if anything)

Nothing. I was addicted to it for many years (I sometimes spent entire days watching porn), but I have completely overcome the addiction part of it and now only watch it once every few weeks/months when I haven’t had sex in a while and I need the physical release.

Not to feel guilty for watching it after, and compare how easy they have and sustain erections

Just watch if less often or cut it out all together, as I feel when I’m done in work I’d rather just do nothing and watch porn then be active and do things around the house or go to the gym

I think I’m going to keep an eye on whether I’m comparing vids to my sex life, as my wife and I are in the lifestyle. I don’t think I have any real issue with porn, but it doesn’t hurt to keep an eye out.

Currently “vanilla” porn (1 man/1 woman, non taboo situation) doesn’t do much for me, and so I escalate to more unlikely scenarios. But I want to stop being aroused by situations that won’t occur in real life. It sets the bar unreasonably high.

Not to feel guilty after watching it.

I’m not sure I watched it out of habit when I wake up in the morning like most people use coffee

Stop making it a routine thing before I shower at night.

There was a lot for me to unpack here…

So I think that my use of porn is extended. I would watch porn for Hours. This could be at night and extend into the wee hours of the morning and boom no sleep (and apparently a lack of sleep can affect erections) or I would start watching porn in the morning and go deep into the afternoon having got nothing done. I wouldn’t necessarily miss appointments or anything, but if I had a day to myself and there were things to do, I have been good for missing them.

This comes from a performance anxiety front… where there’s the idea that men need to last long in bed. So I’m using porn to stay aroused for long periods of time as if I’m practicing how to stay hard for long periods of time.

So! I want to change my duration of porn sessions. I want to limit my porn consumption to 30 minutes per session. I don’t need to over expose myself to arousal and I don’t need to last long.

I don’t want to watch porn and masturbate compulsively, especially if I am feeling bored. I should be more active and thoughtful about when and how I use it.

I use porn as a satisfactory element for appetite of diversity. I use it to find clips that resemble women that I felt attracted to during the day and use that fantasy. I feel guilty because I cheat mentally on my partner then. It is better than actual cheating though and there is nothing wrong with lust for other women - we are biological creatures. Using porn is a actually a good outlet for that.

I’m recovering from porn addiction. I don’t want porn anymore but I fear I have replaced screen fantasy with unrealistic mental fantasies of myself and my wife. When I’m about to be intimate with my wife I’m more concerned about the potential fantasy playing out then being in the moment. I have always done that and it has effected my performance. Recently it has completely distributed my ability to have an keep and erection. I want to be able to enjoy being in the moment with my wife and not caught up in an unrealistic fantasy of me being this pornstar for her

My wife and I use porn together for ideas and stimulation

I’d like to stop watching anal so exclusively. I’d really like to stop using it as a crutch before sex.

I want to stop using porn as a stress relief mechanism when I finish work and stop using it as a daily habit (stop masterbating to porn every night).

I would like deescalate the levels of prob I do watch down to more vanilla

I want to ease back into less intensive porn

Reduce the amount of time (… and money ahem OF) I spend watching porn.

I need to stop now,and focus on my partner