It feels going knowing that I’m getting to the bottom of my anxiety in the bedroom
It knows my weakness and tries to exploit me every chance it gets.
It’s in my head 24/7 of the day and I can’t see myself getting out of it it’s destroying me
that it wants to shield me from embarrassment, and it holds me back. Really relieving to write about this.
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That it creates many fears in me, resulting in me being unable to be intimate
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That it doesn’t want the same things I want
Writing things down is helpful. I learned that my inner critic has power over me but with the proper reasoning I can shut it out.
That I create unrealistic scenarios that I can’t ever live up to so I’m destined to always feel like I’ve failed and disappointed my partner.
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Journaling helped me a bit to identify when I criticize myself the most. When I can’t get it up, I hear a “I told you so”.
Writing things down is essential whether it is digitally or on pen and paper. It can make you realize things about yourself that you never would have thought about. During the exercise, I realized that most of my inner critics thoughts stem from my upbringing and the fact that performance in school and sports was very much so tied to my acceptance I received from my community.
It tries to protect you from failor, but there is nothing to fail
It makes things feel more concrete and like I can’t avoid them, which means I have to confront them or let them rule me. It’s uncomfortable, but I know intellectually that I have to keep going because it’s the only choice with the possibility of a good outcome
Writing things down does help to actualise what my fears and worries are. I have a strong internal monologue and it’s hard to tell it to shut up and go away.
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My inner critic kicks in immediately at the thought of having sex. At no point am I without it.
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I am my own worst enemy, assuming that my partner is frustrated, and basing my performance on that. I need to really concentrate on just pleasing her and enjoy that journey and in that enjoyment find the connection that silences the inner critic… taking small steps, not just trying the same thing over and over, and expecting a different outcome
My inner critic is constant and it’s exhausting.
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That is it relentless
Writing things down actually felt very good to do
It’s genuinely soothing writing things down, as it clears the mind a bit. Performance Anxiety really does suck and the inner critic doesn’t help one bit, but realizing that I am into her from other ways of intimacy shows I genuinely have an attraction to her. I want to be able to train my mind to fully enjoy the moment I have with this person, I just didn’t realize it takes time to rewire your brain.
That can really affect someone life it we cant control it