Writing things down really helps! A lot of the thoughts are complex, and I have a hard time with complex abstract thoughts, so writing it down helps to organize how I feel. I just had a huge realization that my inner critic is actually me, the tough guy exterior me that I show most people. Writing things down help me to get to this realization.
It helps me be honest with myself. I know it’s a self fulfilling prophecy, so if I am able to break out of that cycle I’ll feel so much better.
I think it helps me understand more clearly the issues that are contributing to this
helps realise what’s the issue and how to overcome it
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Yup definitely, just typing out some things got really raw for me
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Yes, it’s a very real self sabotaging cycle that affects me
It reminded me a lot of the kind of integration exercises psychotherapy advocates. It feels like a young version of myself trying to protect me by preparing for the worst, and seeing the critic for that rather some external thought pattern made it easier to show compassion for those thoughts. Hopefully that will help me soothe those thoughts as they come up
It tries to put thoughts and words that were never spoken in my head, which just pushes me to believe I’m not capable of doing this and the sex itself is going to be a waste of time for her
The critic is a demon, a strong MF. I know he’s there to protect me from harm, but man, he’s way too efficient.
My critic pops up at the worst times. It’s difficult when my gf wants to please me but my critic stops that from happening. It makes me feel terrible because I would hate to have my partner think I don’t find her attractive or sexy.
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I learned my inner critic wants to prepare me for the worst case scenario. Even though I know I can perform in bed it still tells me that I can’t.
Ironically, my inner critic is trying to protect me from judgement, as that’s what I’m worried about.
It reminded me that the self-critic is trying to protect me, but really just becomes a barrier and self-fulfilling prophecy in the worst way
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Writing things down helps. It is useful to see things laid out in a way that I can see my logics and connections
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Writing things out helps face the problems
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It’s just an illusion if you are currently doing something to better yourself and change bad lifestyle habits that affect your mental and physical health your inner critic will shrink as time goes on. Constantly work on yourself and you won’t have any reason for doubt
I’ve journaled in the past but haven’t picked it up again. Not sure if I’m interested in journaling my ed and hope mojo takes its place
I think laying thoughts out in journalling is useful, it catches your thoughts and shows them to yourself and that’s hard to do every time you get a thought
Taking a closer observation towards my feelings makes me feel like I’m taking the right steps towards controlling them in a healthy way
My inner critic is bitch and I should have more confidence in myself because I know I’m good dude and I shouldn’t let the past haunt me moving forward
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