Hm, once I know sex is in a few days or at all; the thought sneaks in. As the day draws ever closer a heavy feeling like a fog rolls in. The the moment comes. I gets hard, the inner critic is silent. It speaks when I enter her! It becomes louder if I feel she is not enjoying herself. This subconsciously validates the inner critic & everything begins to unfold..
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My inner critic starts as soon as sex is on the table, telling me that I’m not going to be up to par and that my partner isn’t going to enjoy it
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I learnt that my inner critic shows up almost instantly if I know I’m gonna have sex, and then when I’m about to have sex
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Learned that my critic appears as soon as I know I’m going to have sex, but it’s easier to shake. Then it comes back later during sex and it’s harder to shake.
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My inner critic is there the moment the thought of sex becomes a possibility. It then lingers and gets quitter as the day approaches but then all hell breaks lose as we start touching each other
Anytime I think sex is a possibility, my inner critic and doubt shows up fast. Sometimes I’m able to deal with it, but I’m usually quite fearful immediately
Worst when I feel guilty I can’t give her what she wants and needs. Comes up before and builds as we start to try
Worst when we want to meet each other, specially if there would be chance for foreplay or sex. Easiest just while texting with her.
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My inner critic shows up the moment sex becomes a possibility. I can shake it off or avoid it sometimes if we have sex in the middle of the night when I don’t tend to get into my head.
I noticed it seems more likely to show up during a certain position of sex, but when i am really physically close to my partner looking at my partner close up face to face the critic melts away. So having very close facial contact for me keeps the critic at bay.
My inner critic is present as soon as I think there’s a possibility of sex, especially with some I don’t know very well. It tends to melt away when with eye contact as it distracts me from my thoughts
my inner critic is always there, but when i know im going to have sex, its as if its the biggest part of my life, and all i can do is replay the scenario of me failing to get hard, the disgusting feeling of it, the disappointment on the womans face, the days and weeks of resentment after, before any of it actually happens
Comes up whenever I think of seed and the fear of finishing too early
My inner critic tend to pop up everyday in general negative thoughts about myself, not always necessarily about sex.
It is definitely there if I know I’m building up to sex, putting myself down and assuming I’m going to fail and giving me a feeling of doubt, fear and dread. Saw another comment on here about someone said it feels like a general feeling of inadequacy and that is spot on.
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My inner critic sneaks up intermittently now that I am employing these exercises. I can keep him at bay for a while by remaining calm and feeling the love from my partner before and during sex. I was even able to achieve and maintain an erection in her favorite position! Definitely a game changer.
My inner critic shows up especially right before sex and occasionally thoughts throughout the day
My inner critic is running constantly. I have self awareness enough to get through tasks that are normal but any thing out of the daily routine brings it out larger
My inner critic shows up when I know sex is imminent, and then is subtly persistent in the background until it’s time for sex, and then is front and center
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My critic kicks me when I’m down by getting even louder when I feel my body struggling to respond during foreplay or when we are changing positions. It usually begins when we are getting ready to start getting intimate
I’m experiencing exactly the same. When I know I’m gonna have sex or whenever it becomes concrete (like when I’m scheduling a hookup), the inner critic appears and tells me not to do it. Like “do you really want to? Are you really in the mood? You don’t want to do this. It won’t work anyways” etc