It tends to show up as soon as I think we might be having sex. It sticks around until after (if we do), and eventually quiets down
The moment I realize that sex is on the table my IC kicks in and instantly I can’t perform. Even if I would’ve been fine a moment ago, it feels stressful like I have to trick my brain into sex to enjoy it
It’s very strong for me, personally and professionally because of how exacting I am. I have a lot of shame about my body from bad experiences from an early age and the minute I think about showing my body to someone else there is shame and anxiety
It shows up when I can’t perform. I get furious at myself which prevents me from thinking clearly and blowing it out of proportion
When I know I’m going to have sex with someone is when my inner critic shows up the most. It’s very difficult to shake the doubt. It keeps me from pursuing people I am interested in casually or romantically.
It shows up when I’m really interested in someone, it’s not as present if I’m not that invested in the person I’m having sex with.
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My inner critic shows up with I think about asking someone on a date and is persistent from that moment to going on a date
Once it shows up it doesn’t want to disappear.
My inner critic shows up as soon as sex is mentioned, denying that I would be able to gain a successful erection. Automatically provided a negative outlook or a memory of what happened the last time I tried
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It shows up when I care about the person and feel like a first sexual impression is going to make or break being with her. If I’m not as interested it’s not an issue. Once I’ve “conquered” it with a particular person, it goes away with them for good.
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Didn’t learn much about them other than that they’re not a friend and they only show up at the worst time.
The critic doesn’t have to have one voice. It can be embedded in a set of beliefs that you have about yourself.
It’s always there whenever sex is mentioned.
My inner critic appears immediately when thinking about sex. Though it’s happening less and less. It is less potent ironically when I am actually intimate and hard. It appears again if I go soft while attempting penetration.
My inner critic appears, when I’m thinking about sex. When I know it’s gonna happen. Either leading up to (moments before or even days/weeks before).
It’s more of an emotion than a thought, but thoughts do ruminate time to time
My inner critic shows up during sex. Constantly saying I should have finished already, or that my partner is disgusted by me, or that she is just hoping I will stop, or that she is not enjoying it at all.
My inner critics shows up when I starts to plans and during sex too