I generally donāt have trouble getting hard solo, but with a partner there it adds pressure and the flood of critical thoughts, worry, self-doubt. This exercise helped me realize that my issues are all in my head and when Iām relaxed and feel thereās nothing to prove, my confidence and my erection returns. The trick is getting into the confident headspace when Iām with my partner.
MASTURBATIONā¦IN SPACE. The voice is awful, sorry guys. I could not take it seriously. There seems to be a fairly common consensus in the comments that mellow, relaxing female voices would be most appreciated. I guess I am speaking for the straight folk here though. This voice may be bang on from another perspective.
I get hard quite quickly with light touches in the right spots.
Spectatoring some for sure, but also noticing some sensitive areas that I donāt usually.
Itās not too difficult for me to get erect when touching my body.
I think the idea of āplayā really helps to turn me on. I think watching too much porn distorted my idea of what good sex is. My idea of good sex is playful, fun and connected so itās nice to masturbate in a similar fashion
Really nice to not feel like I have to cum to experience pleasure. Iām remembering how good it feels to stroke the hair around my asshole and tease my body before touching my dick
Iām noticing Iām thinking these when Iām doing it
I like a pulling sensation. Pulling gets me hard quicker.
I am noticing how a light touch near my head feels best when Iām touching my penis.
To be honest that light touch feels best everywhere and often sends sensations to my groin.
Good to have directed focus options to stay in the moment ( pressure, textures, temperature) ā¦ I guess itās a mind switching technique. Negative thinking was that I canāt be this present with another person, that itās too self indulgent ā¦ interesting
It takes me longer than I expected to get hard
I prefer to hear a womanās voice in this exercise as I canāt get aroused by a manās voice! No offence to anybody that can still listen to a manās voice and still get hard!
Pleasantly surprised to see how it felt to stroke other parts of my body, torso and hips, felt nice and relaxing, it allowed me to connect with some sensations in my body that I donāt explore anymore. Will definitely ask my wife to stroke me more moving forward during sex. I need to regain that connection to stop spectatoring.
Getting used to it, but I found the voice to be distracting in the third exercise. Something very funny about Duke Nukem telling me to hold my penis with a medium grip
Slow touch is great in the beginning, but it wonāt get me where I want to be.
I feel like I felt the connection towards the last minute of the exercise. I also focused on using my non dominant hand. That seemed to help!
My mind is much more focused on myself. It almost felt wrong to slowly and carefully touch myself
I canāt help spectatoring a bit but Iām loving this masturbation audios because I really like the sensations on other parts of my body, thatās exactly what Iām looking for.
Discovering that I had a completely different expectation when I read ādirected masturbation exercisesā to what this is about.