Does anyone have any tips on trying new positions? I typically get freaked out and go soft when I get the green light to try literally anything new. (Which leads to the downward spiral and eventually I don’t want to try anything new).
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I find that when we find a position that she enjoys a lot my erections get firmer and I feel very confident. Try to look for some that makes her enjoy it a lot.
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I have this problem too. The anxiety over the position not going well or her not enjoying it causes major problems for me.
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That’s exactly how I feel. I want to be able to do more and see what else she would really enjoy. I’m guessing I’m placing too much pressure on performance and need to just focus and be in the moment. Glad to know I’m not the only one who struggles.
I’m also in the same boat. Been married for many years and sex basically became a repetitive task, over time less frequent, where ED started lurking in. I’m now slightly more confident and sex has been better than it has been in many years. But I still struggle with confidence in certain positions. Especially where she is in control. Dunno why, but i start to worry that it will not go well and I concentrate to check if my penis is hard and doesn’t change. And of course I’m so aware of where that leads now… but I still don’t know how to shut off the brain. I guess once you are aware at least one know what to work on….best of luck