Hey,
Iām really sorry you feel disappointed.
Iāve not taken down your question, youāll see it here in the ālatestā posts: https://community.mojo.so/latest however I did also put your question in the āporn and masturbationā section of our Community as we categorise the discussions so that as many people see them as possible based on the topic: https://community.mojo.so/c/sex-issues/porn-masturbation/14
Thereās another thread about NoFap in this section which may be useful: https://community.mojo.so/t/has-anyone-tried-nofap/2464
I was hoping this section of the blog post would be helpful, as although it doesnāt speak specifically about the NoFap website, it speaks about abstaining from porn to treat ED (or rebalancing as an alternative) - following advice from our psychosexual expert Silva Neves. Iāve copied the snippet below.
Sorry again about that, and I hope you hear some helpful things from the rest of the community!
Rebalancing your relationship with porn
Porn isnāt bad or good, itās just adult entertainment. So, unless your experiences with porn are extremely negative, Silva doesnāt recommend cutting porn out of your life completely ā particularly if you use porn to de-stress.
āIn some cases, porn can be the only coping strategy against stress or other emotional disturbances.
As a therapist, if you ask people to stop watching porn before understanding its role in their lives, you can actually make someoneās mental health worse.ā
- Silva Neves, Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist
However, if you feel like porn is negatively impacting your erections (and your life), you may want to look into rebalancing your porn usage.
When it comes to rebalancing any porn-watching habits, choose a realistic goal that feels like an easy first step. Silva explains an example of how you can do this:
āFirst, try to enjoy porn with a clear boundary of time, for example, 20 minutes (you can put an alarm on). Make sure that those 20 minutes are really enjoyable. You can use lube whilst masturbating to enhance your pleasure, if you wish.
When youāre done, get on with the rest of your day. If you feel an urge to watch porn again, tell yourself that you can have another super-pleasurable moment at your next allocated time, and the waiting for that time can make it even hotter (because anticipation can be sexy).ā
- Silva Neves, Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist
Also think about the function porn offers you and replace it with something that offers the same reward. For example, if porn helps you calm down or de-stress, replace porn with an exercise or meditation that offers you the same release.
Mojoās platform has a range of exercises and meditations to help you feel calmer and less stressed. Check them out here.
Ultimately, when youāre rebalancing your porn usage, be patient and kind to yourself. And if you have any setbacks, itās okay. You can always pick back up where you left off.
āThe most important thing to remember when cutting back on porn is to not pressure yourself or approach this journey with shame.ā
- Angus Barge, Mojo Co-founder