The TORNADO in my head today 😢

🍆 Erection issues
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I have been on MOJO since about April after the therapist I talked to recommended it.

Loads on here and has helped me quite considerably, especially as a forum to offload what is going on in my head which then affects performance.

This morning is a great example . . .

Been a few weeks since we last had sex, purely down to how tired we have been, work, kids and all that stuff.

Once I knew that we may get some quality time, I put myself under this insane pressure and my heart starts racing.

I did some of the breathing exercises but ultimately, it didn’t happen, much to my frustration.

The embarrassment and stress surrounding the disaster is sooo demoralising BUT then I get in the shower and there it is! :eggplant:

I then started to feel a little more confident about stuff and will try again later

It’s as though I have to go through this horrendous first stage to get to where I need to be.

Does this sound familiar or am I on my own here??

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You’re not alone. I’m facing a similar battle amd that’s just it. This should and doesn’t have to be a battle. Let’s take back the fun in sex!

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Absolutely not on your own with this. I can see that pattern with me at times it is like the expectation has been removed because of the low point

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I often have this. The second phase is much more successful than the first! I think the key is to bring the mindset that you have in round 2 (ie: nothing to lose, not a big deal if it doesn’t happen) into round 1 (because it’s still true in round 1). I’m still working on it!