I have only joined up with Mojo today after recently having some issues with going soft during sex. I am with a new partner after 23yr marriage and my new partner is amazing been together nearly 2 yrs and she has been into swinging with her ex and we have spoken about it together and she told me she wants to continue to play in the scene but only with me and other women, we tried it a few months ago and there was us 2 another couple M&F and a 3rd woman. The Male only wanted to watch not participate, everything was going well and I was loving watching my partner with another women and I also with her and another woman and then the male changed his mind and wanted to join in this completely through me off and went soft instantly, he wasn’t forceful or anything and wanted to play with his wife and watch me with her also, but it was very overwhelming for me at the time as it was all new to me.
I have a great sex life with my partner she is up for anything with me and has told me so many times out of the blue that we have the best sex connection together that she has had with anyone in her whole life, but I sometimes doubt myself that I am pleasuring her or that I am performing good enough for her. I’m not the biggest down there but definitely not smallest either and she has told me I am a perfect fit for her in every hole but something is obviously messing with my head now because sometimes I go soft mid way with her and I am now giving myself anxiety about a up coming trip we have planned to check out another swingers club and play with another woman together. Any advice would be great.