I met this amazing, nurturing lady who is not going to judge me and wants to work toward having great sex. All my experience has been being too nervous to get hard and then giving up/breaking up after failure. Anyone have experience and advice on how to go from impotent to hard and confident with a new, trustable partner? I don’t want to rely on drugs but would consider a couple times using the pill if it solidified my confidence.
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Open up to her!
It helped take some pressure off me to perform. I told her it was MY issue but there may be ways she could help…
I suggested that she talk dirty in bed, being forward and direct. Tell me what you want. How to get you there, adjust my technique, etc.
A few days later she asked me to finger her as she used a toy. It was soooo hot. The ask and the act! It also made me feel super comfortable with her- she trusted me with her most personal feelings…