So, what sex myth do you struggle to let go of?

A previous partner did not like that I watched porn. Porn then became something I should be ashamed of, so I did it in private. To not get caught, I found out how to get myself quickly. I think if I just watched porn, I would be ok, but it’s playing that script over and over again that has hardwired my arousal circuits. Bored/frustrated /horny. Wife rebuffs my advances. Watch porn, masterbate, release as fast as possible. Unfortunately, this strategy has stuck and I am trying to find a way out. I appreciate the sentiment that porn is not harmful, I get that, but the behaviors centered around porn can wreak havoc. Staring at a slice of cheesecake isn’t going to hurt anyone, but the act of eating it when presented, over and over is unhealthy.

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Porn has in a way desensitised me from real life situations. I hope i can relieve my anxiety and stress, push through and be better. Mojo will help me do this

Porn desensitizing me and causing me to have erection issues and general arousal problems.

I would have thought that porn and rapid masturbation would worsen PE. Maybe not?

I think I agree with the myth-busting research cited in this article. But there is something to be said about excessive porn use triggering reward/endorphin centers in your brain too much, and we know there’s research around that from various other none-sexual activities that causes issues. All things in moderation is probably the only truth, really.

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That porn has desentiviced me forever and I can no longer be in the present moment with a long term partner. I need novelty

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The desensitization of it

Desensitisation to real sex

That I need to be experiencing my kinks to get aroused and climax

That it’s desensitizing me to real connections

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I need to be able to feel just as aroused as I do with porn

Desensitization

Permanent affects erections

Comparing my sex life to porn life is what causes my anxiety. That I should be aiming for this or that kind of performance instead of just being in the moment.

I see how guys in porn seem to last for 30 minutes without stopping, enabling the women to orgasm, but I cum in 5 minutes or so.

That I can cum without watching porn, I get nervous about what my partner thinks when I am unable to cum from sex, I’m able to stay hard for a while but actually cumming is the hard part

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That im what she wants

That my ED has nothing to do with watching porn. As soon as I have a break I get better erections. Pretty simple. I’m not an anxious person, I just get pissed off I can’t get hard.

Definitely resonated with me that porn can be a coping strategy, especially when developed early, I was 11-12 and a fairly lonely kid so that makes sense that it became a way to feel better.
Although I am still struggling to come around to the idea that porn has nothing to do with my sexual and relationship issues. I can’t say they wouldn’t be there if I didn’t use porn at all but it certainly feels as though they stem from problematic porn use

Actually being able to cum. I can go several rounds and even feel like I’m about to cum but I don’t. It kinda gets to me and I start questioning why can’t I cum which may just be a negative feedback loop