I’ve am a severe performance anxiety person and have been suffering for years. I have been with my GF for a while now and I’ve told her about my issues with it and tried to assure her that it is in no way caused by her. Every time I get soft there is a huge impact on the both of us and I usually end up trying to comfort her because she thinks it’s her fault. Long story short is there anyway to get through to her that this isn’t her because it is beginning to build this tension that is not helping the situation? Thanks
Try doing some of the exercises with her maybe? Involve her in your journey. Eg the soft penis play, it might be weird but I think the more vulnerable you are with her the more she can see that your journey is about you. If you’re comfortable enough tell her about your inner critic and what is says to you. Help her live your experience and get inside your head then she might see she’s not a problem but a solution
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