Self-compassion can help you from spiraling into negative self-talk. It’s like letting yourself be human instead of beating yourself up over being soft during this practice session.
Finish this sentence.
“One thing I like about myself today is…”
I am gaining sexual confidence
I am learning to be present
I am learning to be in the moment, noticing sensations in my skin and just know that pleasure isn’t a test but just for fun.
Its okay if i do not get hard immediately. I will learn to be more in the present rather than worrying about the past and catastrophizing about the future. Each moment is a different experience unto itself.
It’s ok that I’m not hard right now, I’m not a robot. I’m a human being
I am doing my best
It’s okay if my cock goes soft during sex
I don’t have to be erect at all times during sex
Being fully erect during sex isn’t actually necessary and doesn’t mean I’m a failure if I go soft
I did a little better this time