Post divorce, new relationship, I lose my erection before penetration but it’s psychological

Hi fellas, just after some guidance on what to do. So I’m in a loving relationship with a great sex life (and it’s newish) but I lose my erection before penetrative sex. She has worked with me and says she doesn’t care - we do other things instead, make out, I go down on her, all kinds of things. She has helped me to the point that I can masturbate with her and I can cum, and that satisfies her, but I’d still love to actually have penetrative sex with her as I love her. It’s crazy, the moment I try to insert, it goes floppy. It stays hard otherwise. I know it’s psychological as I get good morning erections that last for half an hour sometimes (although I am in 40’s, so I’m working on other health angles just in case). I’ve destroyed all my porn - I was single for 5 years prior (before that I was married and now divorced). I truly regret my porn use now, I think it has caused some of this performance anxiety.

Just wondering where I should start to overcome this please? I’m not 100% sold on mojo yet as I find the daily exercise way too brief and I feel I’m not learning enough (I would prefer half an hour of therapy a day), but I’ve paid for and am trying for 3 months. TIA.

There are other things you can jump into under explore to extend the time per session. Also I sometimes do the exercises longer than the app calls for. These are tools they are giving id say use them how you like.

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