Does anyone feel like the guidance on here is kind of missing the point? Iām struggling to get aroused with my girlfriend because I have fried my brain with causal sex and violent / degrading kinks which now feel totally wrong to indulge in with someone I genuinely love. Doing CBT or listening to an āarousal boosterā or kegels or whatever else is on here isnāt going to fix this because I have fundamentally changed the dopamine circuitry in my brain. Anyone feel the same?
I see your point but I would say this app IS designed to reset the ācircuitryā of your brain, in a way. I hope you find it helpful if you persevere.
I know what you mean there are a lot of activities that I find or at least feel are not impactful or maybe donāt relate to me. But I would suggest you persevere with it because it has helped me greatly. Particularly the portion about porn. Mojo doesnāt necessarily tell you to Completely stop using porn or demonize it, but after reading your original post 100% thatās the number one most impactful thing that I think you can do is stop using porn outright Iād have to say the next biggest thing that is going to help you through this is having the right partner That is understanding and wants to make things work regardless.
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My psych whom I consult regarding ED says porn is ok esp if you havenāt got a partner but you need different types to fire neurons to different parts of the brain. Try reading erotic books, teasing audio, visual (but vary) and also the solo exercises here to wax and wane and direct masturbation.
Appreciate you guys coming back. I already donāt watch porn at all though, and havenāt done for years so itās not caused by that. It sometimes feels like Iām trying to do conversion therapy on myself by trying to force myself to stop being aroused by the things I like