So I had a great run through the program and had an erection 4 times in a row (hard as hell) and great sex. So it was working! And tried to have sex today and lost it. My wife and are trying to conceive, so this makes it difficult and stressful. Any advice on how to not let this one time get in my head?
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This is negativity bias in its purest form right here. We give more weight to negatives more than we do positives.
You said it yourself: you’re are a 4:1 success ratio right now.
How about you focus on how awesome and hot that sex you had four times was instead of the one time it didn’t go how you hoped?
This is mental training. So I’m choosing to congratulate you on the four fun sex sessions because I think that’s what you should be focusing on too.
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Really appreciate the support and reply! I definitely tend to focus on the negatives which I’m trying to work on!
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You made the progress we’re all working towards, you’ve come so far and it’s inspiring. You might only see the failure, but I see someone who’s made so much progress
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Something I’ve heard is when you’re trying to conceive a lot of people treat it like this serious thing when in reality it’s just like normal sex. Treat it like any other time and you’ll do just fine 
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