Hi everyone
Been a member here for a few months and used the app on and off when I have faced issues. I go through periods when I have no problems and I don’t use the app as much. However, I seem to have gone back to abit of a rubbish place with negative thoughts and spectating.
Does anyone else find they can cope with the thoughts easier when they are well rested? I seem to be ok and be able to sustain an erection at the weekend. Particularly when having sex after just waking up. However, during the week, after work, I am exhausted and I just don’t feel I have any mojo. I don’t know whether this is negative thoughts creeping in and stopping me from trying. It just becomes a self fulfilling prophecy during the week.
My partner is really supportive but she is very sexual and intimate. She would like sex much more regularly than I can deliver at the moment. This probably adds to the pressure.
What strategies have people found that really work for them? I just get too into my own head and cannot get out once it starts.
Hey man it’s common! Morning sex for me is best - wood and rest ! I think this is just tiredness with you … perhaps try different types of sex in the eve (oral or massage or just hand jobs)… a lot of sex is also a call for intimacy - touching etc… kissing… take the pressure off - we all work too hard 
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It crazy how I differ . For me evening sex is always the best . Like after I’m relaxed and the day is over . My wife is always loved morning sex but for me it never the best . This is something I have just confessed to her with trying to be open on this with everything at the same time don’t want to disappoint her. I guess whatever works best for each and every one of us as long as we continue to move forward!
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I feel like I have a very similar situation. I will go weeks without any issues and then randomly my brain will spectate and then I have to go through a cycle of addressing the problem again.
I think a lot of it stems from the fact that my girlfriend and I only see each other on the weekends so the pressure to fit sex into our schedule falls on those days, like I need to be prepared and ready.
Using morning wood and the relaxation of waking up has always been a confidence booster, but I am ready to move into more consistent erections whenever the moments present itself
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