Had a casual encounter today and while at first it took me time (about 5 minutes) to get hard, once with the foreplay and touching, I got hard for 40 minutes. Didn’t cum but just the fact that I got ir hard for that amount of time for oral sex and a few handjob and edging sessions, it made a difference. I was able to zone in and relax. The self critic voice started creeping up at the beginning but I was able to shut it out and relaxed. Truly a good win.
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Nice job bro. Any advice on how you did that?
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When the intrusive thoughts started to creep in, I shut my brain down and just stared at them. I did two box breathes to regain control of my mind and I told them what areas to press and how to touch and that started to get me hard. The turning point definitely was able to say to myself “you got this, nothing to worry about. just enjoy the moment” and the box breaths combined with their touching really relaxed me. Sometimes ignoring the thoughts and focusing on the right here right now moment helps to shut down and clear the mind.
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Nice work brother!!!
I had a similar experience.
Gf is away for a month helping mom 2hrs away.
I have PED, and death grip… (too much solo and porn for years!!)
I’d quit porn and solo (90%…
) a month ago and it’s helped. Pills never really helped due to It being in my head…
I’ve been doing a kegal/rev kegal, box breathing reginine for a couple weeks now…
The other night I popped a Viagra just for kicks.
Holy crap!
What a difference! Not sure if the exercises allowed the V to work or what, but I was rock hard for almost an hour.
I woke up a few hours later and went for round 2! Then again in the morning!!
I realize this is way different than sex with a partner, but I’m very hopeful!!!
I get to spend Friday night with her, so…
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Close. Green: I’ve done the same- I got real specific to gf regarding how to touch me, the fact that I like explicit talk (not necessarily nasty, but direct and erotic) and I’ve gotten creative in my requests, like when I’m going to finger her, I’ll slip my fingers in her mouth first to get them wet, she’s started doing the same before she pinches my nipples or starts a handy…. Things like that have brought us closer and have reduced my stress and anxiety a lot!
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