The other night I was intimate with a girl I’ve been getting to know more. We both like each other, and are very attracted to each other. But we are both going through breakups. This was the first person either of us had been with since then. It started off well, but as soon as we got to the good stuff, my inner critic took over. Major. I was so into it mentally. But physically, I couldn’t relax. And then I got angry. Not outwardly, but internally. Luckily she was cool about it, as I had already made her orgasm from oral. But I worry that I’ll mess up my first time with every partner. Does anyone else feel more anxiety the first time with someone new? And how do you combat it?
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Yeap brother! Every time, in fact I was with a new partner for the first time this week. She’d already cum, but there was nothing happening for me at all… she grabbed it and I swear it actually shrivelled!
I had to explain it often comes with trust, time and emotional connection… all of which are true
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I feel the same way. I’ve got some trauma surrounding sex, so trust is huge for me. Still, I can’t help but feel wrong for being that way. I try my best, but it’s like I’m terrified of disappointing them. And then because of that, I end up disappointing them. But when I’m relaxed, and into it, I perform like a pornstar. So. It’s frustrating.
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